Couldn’t move one, would like your opinion! Respectfully ofc (no need to make fun or show hate)
I’m a guy in my late 20s and a few years ago I was in a relationship with a girl who was around 4 years younger than me. I genuinely loved her. I’m not exaggerating when I say I would’ve done almost anything for her without hesitation.
Things ended after I found out she was talking to other guys while we were together. I decided to break up with her because I knew I wouldn’t be able to trust her again.
Three months later, I randomly saw her at a club. We had a mutual friend, and about a week after that night, the friend reached out to tell me she had apparently cried afterward because I paid her zero attention.
So, stupidly enough, I reached out thinking maybe she regretted everything and wanted us back. We met, and instead she basically told me:
“I don’t want to get back together. If I ever change my mind, I’ll reach out to you.”
That honestly hit harder than the breakup itself.
Since that day, I never contacted her again. No messages, no calls, nothing.
Now both of our birthdays are coming up, and on top of that, her favorite DJ is playing at a festival in Taghazout soon. I know for a fact she’ll probably be there. Part of me wants to go too, but another part of me knows it might just make me look desperate or like I’m hoping for some movie-scene reunion.
The bigger issue is this: ever since her, I feel emotionally empty. I’ve met other women since then, some objectively beautiful, interesting, genuinely good people… but I just feel nothing. Some notice it and slowly distance themselves, others try harder, but it never changes.
And before anyone jumps to the usual “red pill / move on / plenty of fish” stuff — trust me, I already know all the logic behind it. Rationally, I understand everything. That’s not really the issue.
What I’m struggling with is the emotional side of it. It’s like something in me stayed attached to that relationship even after accepting it’s over.
So I guess I’m asking:
Has anyone here experienced that emotional numbness after one specific person?
Did it eventually go away naturally, or did you have to actively work through it?
And regarding the festival… would going be a terrible idea if deep down I know part of me hopes to see her?