u/ApprehensivePut3790

I’m going to keep all names obviously out of this story time because I am actually paranoid of this man. All you need to know is me, my boyfriend, incel best friend, roommate best friend, and roommate girlfriend.

So I met my current boyfriend at a house concert like a lot of people in college probably do. Though funnily enough it was actually incel best friend that I met first. I really on spoke to him to bum a cigarette off of him since he was offering for free, then he happened to mention the friend he was with might let me take a hit off his joint. He obviously did, we kept talking, exchanged info, and in about a month of hanging out we started dating. I never thought too hard about the fact I met incel friend technically first.

Thing was as I hung out with my boyfriend on an almost daily basis, we were rarely ever actually alone. Most nights me, him, and roommate friend would walk over to incel friends house to smoke. Mostly because those two were still stuck in a dorm and this was before I moved into my place nearby, so it was the safest option. Most times on weekends we’d go over to drink too. Rare times roommates girlfriend would also tag along to have another girl in the group. As a female I think it’s sometimes only natural to notice when someone starts to take a liking to you too much. Maybe at least for me since I’m used to being perceptual. I’d say it took at least maybe two weeks into me and my boyfriend dating for me to start noticing weird signs though.

First clues were small, just staring too much in a group setting, deliberately pressing into tight spaces near me at outings we’d go to, and more importantly starting to make degrading jokes about my boyfriend way too often in front of me. Then things started to get almost a little too obvious at least to me. In passing one night I had mentioned my favorite brand of cigarettes were Marlboro Reds. Later in time I find out something that’s important to mention right now. My boyfriend when wingmaning for incel friend told him he should start conversations with girls he’s interested in by ‘offering something like a drink or smoke’. What does incel friend bring pull out for me at next hangout free of charge? A pack of Marlboro Reds that hadn’t even been opened. He said himself they were for ‘me’, until roommate friend asked for one and he backtracked with a they’re for ‘everyone’.

More small things happened in that period of time. He found me at a house party I was at with just my friends not my boyfriend, he started deliberately playing as a mortal kombat character of my name when we’d come over, he winked at me when no one was looking, he started to joke about me and my boyfriend’s sex life, then he started to ‘joke’ about if we’d ever have threesomes. So AT THIS POINT I know in my head i’m not just overthinking and crazy.

When we get to my boyfriends dorm I’m finally eventually like “you’re not going to want to hear this but-“ and went down the rabbit hole. He didn’t outright not believe me, but you could tell he also didn’t want to believe his incel friend of a long time would purposefully do those actions. My boyfriend also hates drama which I can understand, we’re in college we shouldn’t have to deal with it. Though now he’s definitely keeping his eye out.

The exact moment I could see it click on my boyfriends face one night that I was right was when we were having a usual smoke sesh. Except when it was incel friends turn to hand me the pipe, he practically held and caressed my hand while doing it. Right in front of my boyfriend. Like he didn’t care. Which of course resulted in a tiff outside his front door. Now, we’re suddenly not going over to incel friends house as much anymore. Roommate friend and my boyfriend are starting to shit talk him with me. We’re all starting to peel apart things he’s done to realize just how much of a creep he is.

Roommate friend had to also shit talk to a mutual friend though. Which led to mutual friend spreading the word right back to incel friend. Which we realized when he started to call roommate friend as him and my boyfriend were smoking at my house. Which I made sure incel friend never got the address of. They had to leave to talk to him. He denied everything, said that was never his intentions, that he doesn’t know why we’d even think that. My boyfriend stops seeing him for good, but doesn’t block him. Incel friend starts buying a bunch of free stuff for roommate friend to make him hangout with him instead of my boyfriend. After about two weeks of it- roommate friend gets sick of it and also stops seeing him.

I’d dare say the biggest plot twist though was a recent incident. It’s summer so me, my boyfriend, and roommate friend indulged ourselves in a ‘earthy mushroom snack yk’. We’re having a good time on it, until we hit the peak and a certain incel friend starts spam calling both of them. Knowing what they were doing that day since roommate friend told him. Needless to say he kinda ruined the mood. Though it meant as we were coming down we started to talk about him more in depth. It comes out from roommate friend that he thinks he might’ve caught incel friend secretly rubbing one out as we’d be hanging out. We start to put together that it might not just be me. He’s made sexual vouyeristic comments about all of us. I could say more but honestly I don’t even want to go in depth with what came out.

Thing is- my boyfriend and roommate friend still haven’t blocked him online to fully cut off contact. I never added him on anything thank god. I love my boyfriend we’ve been together for a while now but I don’t get why he keeps overthinking how to block him instead of just doing it. Am I the tweaker for being a little pissed about it? Who knows.