Letting go or warning the new hire ?
Five months ago, my managers hidden smear campaign against me successfully had me lose my job. I was completely blindsided, it was one of the most horrible things that have ever happened to me.
I documented his behavior in a ten page document, which I gave to the anti-discrimination department of that workplace. They can’t really do anything right now (or don’t care enough) because my boss and I started working at the company at the same time two years ago and I’m the first complaint about him they got. he told me that was let go from two jobs prior to that one because apparently his female higher ups clocked his character and incompetence, he would generally refer to any women in powerful positions as stupid bitches and I was the only woman on the project.
From what I’ve heard, he said my position was not needed and it was cut completely from the project / until one month ago.
A former coworker from a different department told me that he now has hired a new girl for my position who is even moving countries to work for him.
Long story short: I still struggle with PTSD and hearing stuff like that puts me right back in fight or flight. For whatever reason, I feel responsible for warning her about him. I also want to forget what happened, but since the anti-dis department told me that one complaint wasn’t enough, I can’t help but think that it would be helpful to tell her that she should go straight to them, when shit starts hitting the fan. I don’t know her though and would rather move on, but my brain …. I also think this might be the case because I don’t have a new job yet, but will this feeling go away the moment I do?
Has anyone been in a similar spot or has experienced feeling like that? Do you have any words of wisdom for me on how to deal with the situation? Thanks in advance !
TLDR: should I warn the new hire about my narc ex-manager?