This is the first time i have started a thread on Reddit also posted in a cannabis group, I'm not sure this is even the right group for this post but maybe someone can offer some advice.
I started using cannabis for insomnia around 6 years ago, I ended up with a prescription for medical 3 years ago. I am now 46.
It stopped helping me sleep a few years ago but I carried on being a 2g a day user because I was addicted to it and terrified of what would happen to my sleep if I stopped using. My REM sleep was scrap and none restorative. I decided the weed had to go, I am now 32 days without weed. Ive been given 15+ medications for insomnia and quitting weed has been far worse than stopping anything else.
I have been prescribed 1mh Lorazepam for the insomnia, I sleep roughly 5hrs per night 12-5am. Without the benzo i'm getting 2 hours if im lucky.
This is what I am looking for some advice with....
During the week my wife and I will get the kids in bed for 9pm, she sleeps like a log and will be asleep on the sofa or in bed by 10pm Monday - Thursday. So I spend a lot of time on my own, but she is a really busy person and I don't have a problem with that.
Friday - Sunday she will start drinking in the day, yesterday it was 4pm when she opened a bottle of wine, not sure how much she drank but it was more than 1 bottle. She started drinking during her studying to qualify as an accountant, and continued though the meal we went out for on the evening with the kids.
These days she is asleep as soon as the kids bedtime routine is done, last night she fell asleep in the eldest sons bed. So we don't spend any time together alone at all.
All the time i was smoking i don't suppose i really cared as i could just have a joint and be satisfied with being on my own, now i am sober this isn't the case and its making me really unhappy.
She never moaned about my cannabis use, other than the smell. So now I feel in a really tight spot on how to approach this situation as what I really want is her to cut the drinking down.
This feels completely hypocritical to me and I don't really know what to do, I feel like we may need relationship counselling so we can talk but it would be mediated. 4 hours a week with my partner just doesn't feel enough to me, I love her dearly.
anyone have any suggestions or advice for me please ?
much appreciated.