Im losing my mind
I think I'm being catfished, but I also think that there's a lot of Truth to what the person is saying.
I met this girl on a dating app, I'm 30M and she's 28, and we ended up swapping numbers after only a couple days of talking on the app. Didn't take long for us to be calling each other, and for the better part of 2 months we would stay up all night talking to each other on the phone, falling asleep whilst talking to each other, watching shows and movies together while on the phone.... In case you haven't caught on yet, we never met and it was all over the phone. We never did a video call, there's my first mistake. There always seemed to be something that came up that would prevent her from meeting, but the things that would come up seem to be valid.
She said she was a doctor, and she was always extremely knowledgeable in her field. Like, very knowledgeable and too quick on the draw for her to be googling stuff on the fly. She definitely seemed to know what she was talking about and was open about not being familiar with other fields of medicine other than her specialty.
Her and I both have kids. Now I suppose it could have all been faked, but the way she spoke to her kids in the moment was all too real. And the way I could hear the older one say my name in the background... Again, it seemed so real. She sent me pictures of herself and her kids. She sent me short videos of her kids. I would reciprocate these, Of course, I'm just saying what she did for me.
All of her pictures looked legit, they all have the same woman in them. They don't strike me as being AI generated at all. Plus the videos. The voices, all the same. Everything was so consistent, no variations. I'm no stranger to AI, I've played around with it plenty. I know what to look for, I'm quite familiar with it.
That being said, I've done some Google image searching and I can't seem to get any matches with what she sent me. I've tried pics of her and also some background people in a couple of them, no luck (she's not on social media conveniently enough, but then neither am I other than here and TikTok). I've done some light research on Doctor verification, either I can't seem to figure it out, that or it's just not tracking. I googled the phone number, it popped up on the White Pages and I even spent the $5 to get a more accurate reading... And the number supposedly belongs to someone who lives in another state, but the area code is of my state. And there's zero other information. However, when I use the white pages and look my own phone number up, there's way more information such as my name and people almost likely related to. Her phone number has absolutely nothing except another name. I know the hospital she works at, or supposedly does, I called them and they don't have anyone with her name that works there.
I feel like I was definitely being catfished here, but again it seems like there are some sprinkles of truth (there are a few other things I could mention but I'm trying not to say EVERYTHING, just trust me) and it's absolutely maddening. She has since called things off, blocked my number I assume, definitely blocked me on Gmail (we had to use Google chat sometimes due to my line of work and not having my cell phone), and neither one of us have been on the app for some time now. I should in theory be able to Just put it in the rearview mirror and continue on with life... But when I say that I did invest a lot of my time over the last couple months, I really really mean it. I have never talked with someone like that before. I have never talked with someone as much before. And I'm talking relationships, family, friends, anybody. Hours and hours and hours and hours. I really opened up to her, she really opened up to me (of what she was saying was true, that is). I want to get to the bottom of it, all I want is a little closure, or at least a bit of truth.
I'm at a loss here. Is there anything else I can do to try and figure this out, or should I just do my best to forget it ever happened? I'm hurt, and I haven't felt this shitty in a while. I really liked her... Or whoever it was.