3 months without my Sophie

3 months without my Sophie

I was 30 weeks pregnant when I had to suddenly put down my Sophie. I still cry and I don’t know how I’m going to go the rest of my life without her. I was overseas for 2 years before she passed because of the military. When I came back, I bought a home and she was only with me for 6 months. I feel really guilty I left her behind with my parents but I knew it was best for her. She stopped eating suddenly and I couldn’t get her to eat. The vet said it could be lymphoma or a gi issue. I decided to end her suffering rather than put her through getting a feeding tube. I feel guilty because maybe she would have gotten better. She was 14 when she passed and I always thought she was younger due to the shelter paperwork but when we looked at her original records she was older. I thought she would live til like 20 years old like my childhood cat. I went to the vets all the time, gave her all the specialized food and medicine and it wasn’t enough. I feel bad because I feel 14 is young for a cat to pass away. Funny story when I first adopted her I had to wear earplugs because her meows were so loud I couldn’t sleep. Now I have my newborn on my chest typing this but I’m sad Sophie never got to meet him. And now she is in a box in my bedroom. It is hard to understand.

u/Avondran — 1 day ago

1 week postpartum

Sorry, I tried to look at old posts but I’m still confused. I tried pumping for a couple of days and absolutely hate it and I think I have PPD. I think I want to do formula. I feel like an awful mom though. I really wanted to pump but after I realized how much it takes me away from my baby it’s making me depressed. I’m scared I’m going to get mastitis if I stop pumping. I feel so guilty and I’m sure my husband wants me to do breast milk. I already suffer from anxiety and depression before baby. When I thought of going with 100% formula I felt a weight lift off my chest. I spent all this money on pumping parts to give up after a week. I had an uncomplicated delivery but have been in a lot of pain due to a second degree tear. So pumping on top of that has tanked my mental health. I even yelled at my husband which is so unlike me. It’s no excuse though. Sorry for the emotional rant but if anyone can give me suggestions I would appreciate it. I have so far been combo feeding Similac and breast milk and my baby loves both. He drinks from a bottle cold or warm and seems (knock on wood) pretty easy to please so far. I have an appointment with a lactation consultant and wonder if I should cancel. She seemed non-judgmental about formula but I don’t want to pump anymore. I know formula is expensive but I think we can afford it especially if it’s the betterment of my mental health. I don’t know whether to stop pumping cold turkey today or keep pumping. Is the baby brezza worth it at all? I also picked up a back up can of Kendamil but don’t want to upset my baby’s tummy obviously so I’ll stick with the Similac I got from the hospital. I manually pumped with the Mandela this morning but already feel weird not pumping since like I’m ill. I also couldn’t get my baby to latch that effectively and my baby was so frustrated and it hurt to see that. Even with a nipple shield it has scarred me. But when I gave him a bottle he was so happy ugh I feel so guilty. This sub seems really friendly so I hope I can get some help.

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u/Avondran — 21 days ago