Need Help - can't keep cool or keep a mattress firm!!
So I keep falling down a rabbit hole and don't seem to get anywhere. I don't even know if I need a topper or what but I'm waiting for my new mattress to arrive and I need to figure out what to do
I sleep very hot, and tend to push sheets off of me even though I keep the bedroom quite cold. I weight just about 230lbs and a log of the reviews I find online for Canadian sites usually are for people under 200lbs so it's been hard to know what to rely on for durability.
The last three mattresses I've gotten have all sagged well within 6 months. I thought my bed frame was the issue and got a new one but the next mattress sagged just as quickly. I've tried thicker slats and even went with nearly full with boards below the mattress and it made no difference. Thank goodness for Silk and Snow having such a long return window. As soon as the mattress begins to get slightly soft I start having neck and back pains. I usually sleep on my back but have been sleeping on my side when the pain starts. I spent months trying different pillows and finally found one that didn't add to the neck pains any more but I'm still so frustrated by any mattress I've slept on, luxury or not.
I know a topper will make things softer as I've had them before but I wonder if there is one that won't trap any of the heat that makes sleeping so uncomfortable. When the toppers have been built into the mattress itself I've just sunk in and felt swamped and overheat so I've stuck with a firm tight top mattress so at least I'll have some comfort until it sags. I'm just worried about getting too hot and waking up all sweaty because of it.
Any recommendations would be greatly appreciated!