csm guidance counselor experience
hey, cats!
19 M, Bio
just wanted to share a brief experience sa akong encounter with CSM’s Guidance Counselor.
for context, I am an incoming 2nd Year student and during my first year first sem, naka encounter kog sexual harassment inside the campus. it was a very random (to say the least) nga panghitabo because nag lakaw rako around the campus and someone literally pinched my nipples and later on touched my private parts nga to the point nag libog ko aha ko una mo react or kung mo siyagit ba ko. the person who did this btw is not a student, rather, murag janitor ata (not sure) this person wears blue, pink, sahay green na uniform. he asks for numbers sa mga students, asks if they have a partner and usahay, like my case, mambastos.
that shit stayed on my mind for several months until finally i had to share that experience to a “professional”. to cut the story short, gi share nako akong experience, described the person who did it.i was not seeking for some advise not even a comfort… i just had to flush it out of my system and move on and ofc be heard so that aware sila that there are active cases jud ana sa campus.
he found out who the person i was referring to. told me he knew the person and that they were once close. dugay na daw to siya sa iit. tldr, basically iya rang gi shrug off akong problema by saying na “gi ango ango nato siya” and like “dili ka pataka takag istorya kay wala ka kabalo sa kahimtang sa tawo” as if i knew naunsa to na person. It was clear as day that that person knew what he was did to me. He added “sure ka siya to? pasagdae ra ug siya to kay dugay nana siya diri sa IIT” “never jud ko kadungog ug mga ing ani about sa iyaha”. Worse tong part na sige siyag balik balik ani na part “kaila ko ato niya and but an to siya” “pinakahate gyud nako nang magpataka rag storya (this part made it worse because he used pa other people’s name para ma justify iyang gipang storya even if it does not relate to my concern)”.
was i wrong to share my experience?
he said worse things than that…i did not seek sa iyang opinion. i felt very attacked. i do not even want to step in that building. not once did he take in mind or even understand what had happened to me. instead gave a very unsolicited comment and made things worse. i hated that session to my core. i had better expectations to this counselor because he conducts forums/discussions about sexual advances. But meh. he flopped. i can see even the way he looked at me that HE.DID.NOT.LIKE.ME.AT.ALL.
this is just an experience. not a hate post. sometimes i wished na i did not share that experience at all.