u/Beneficial-Maybe1055

I’m looking for an ML thats foxy, playful, goofy but also overpowered male lead. Think Lucas from WMMAP, Arwin from Miss Not-So-Sidekick, Rue from The Peaceful Life of a Maid, the twins from OHSHC or the ML from Oiran Girl. Basically Nick Wilde energy but he can actually back up all the shi he talks.

I don’t want anything super dark or depressing. Angst is fine, just not For My Derelict Favorite levels where the story feels heavy all the time. I want FUN, romance, chaos and lots of jealousy and teasing.

Manhwa/manhua preferred because I struggle with manga nowadays unless the art is really good. Smut is completely fine too

I’ve been reading manga/manhwa/webtoons since I was 12 and I’m 26 now, so PLEASE dig deep because I’m looking for something more obscure 😭 Modern settings are also completely welcome!

OH YEAH bonus if he has long hair

Note: this is not a hate post, just an analysis. Maririn is my fav character and I like her. This isn’t hate, I just wanted people who watch this show and resonate with her to understand that her behaviour didn’t fit with the cast. And its my opinion.
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In the first episode, I genuinely felt so bamboozled by her crying, but I didn’t really have an opinion on her yet. As the show went on though, she really started to shine. She has such a fun personality and actually feels like a real character rather than someone who’s just there to look pretty.

The main issue is that her unresolved trauma seems to affect the way she handles rejection and emotions. After a while, I started feeling uncomfortable whenever she would cry or get extremely emotional. And I’m NOT saying the guys are right in how they treat her, but she does come across as very anxious and emotionally unstable at times.

The situation with Taichan especially showed that. I understand the mindset of “I’m here, so I might as well give it everything I have” and I actually respect that she’s willing to put herself out there. But he was clearly uncomfortable and she kept pushing anyway. There’s a point where this starts crossing someone else’s boundaries. Like girl please stand up, he is not worth it.

And we also have to remember what kind of men we’re dealing with here. These are toxic, emotionally unavailable men. Of course they’re not going to be attracted to someone who comes across as desperate, anxious or pushy. If anything, that probably makes them pull away even harder. They’re much more likely to chase someone avoidant like Hikaru or Ruru because there’s distance, uncertainty and a sense of having to win them over. That doesn’t make Maririn wrong for being emotionally open, but the more desperately she pursues these particular men, the more it seems to work against her.

And yes, obviously she’s allowed to cry. But in a dating show, first impressions matter A LOT. Crying on the very first day is unfortunately going to shape how people see you, whether that’s fair or not.

Then add the fact that she’s mixed and doesn’t fit the very narrow beauty standard these men seem to care about, and I honestly think she was fighting an uphill battle from the beginning. Especially with a group of men who seem extremely conscious of status, appearance and what the other guys think.

The ironic part is that I genuinely think every single one of them likes Maririn as a person. They enjoy being around her, they think she’s funny, and she brings personality to the group. But would they actually choose her romantically and stand on that choice in front of everyone else? I don’t think they would. The same way most men in the world don’t go for women they actually like.

And I honestly think that’s part of why the guys gossip about her so much. It almost feels like a way for them to deal with their own discomfort around her. Some of them might genuinely like her and yes! even be attracted to her, but she doesn’t fit the type of woman they’ve been taught is desirable or socially impressive to date. Japan is still Japan.
So instead of questioning why they feel conflicted, it’s easier to turn Maririn into the problem. She’s “too emotional,” “too desperate,” “too pushy.” If they can convince themselves that there’s something wrong with her, then they never have to examine if their own attraction is clashing with societal beauty standards, their egos, or what they think their bros would approve of. And when you put a bunch of men like that together, they just reinforce it in each other.

I really think something good comes out of this experience for her though. I hope the exposure from the show brings her opportunities and brand deals, and allow her to enter completely new environments where she can meet people who actually appreciate her personality and enjoy being around her. (People like banana man)

But more than anything, I hope she finds a good therapist and gets the chance to work through some of the things that are clearly still hurting her. She doesn’t need to become less emotional or change who she is, but she deserves to reach a point where rejection doesn’t completely bamboozle her and she doesn’t feel like she has to desperately chase and beg for love from people who aren’t choosing her.

Because genuinely, I think she could thrive in a completely different environment. And I really want that for her. She really was the diamond of the season, and if she ever reads this (small chance), I want her to know that there’s nothing wrong or off with her. Other people just had a head start in life and she has to do it from ground -5.

I’ve always seen those TikTok videos about how narcissistic people have dead eyes and I really feel it with Bo. He just scares me. Does anyone else feel that or am I overreacting