Hi everyone.
I know a guy for five six months. We'd a pretty good understanding and share a lot of similar interests. We'd chatted often. Our chats have been pretty friendly but pretty formal too. We'd shared our thoughts about different interests. Our normal convo would naturally happen once to twice in a month, would last for not more than thirty mins in general. We're both students, have never met in real life. I guess we've developed quite good understanding atleast i feel this way. I'm otherwise never open to guys weather online or in real life. He's the first one I've had developed some how genuine connection and understanding. Now my parents are thinking of my marriage. I always believed that I'll consider mutual understanding as my top priority for marrige. And for that I won't have enough choices due to limited interactions with opposite gender. So I'm really considering this guy for marrige proposal. But the problem is I don't know anything about the guy's family, his own personality in real life. We never talked about our personal lives. I feel bit awkward to talk about these things, as I'm so much concerned about setting clear boundaries between us. I know he's gonna have pretty much secured future financially as i see he's pretty serious and hardworking guy. I'm really afraid of the guys in general as these days many of them will just talk to you or present themselves in a certain way but aren't very serious. They can take things for granted, but i myself never believe in useless chatting with opposite gender. Recently I've told him that my parents are thinking of the marrige, that was all of a sudden, i was expecting he'd say something, but he didn't. He just gave mixed confused reaction. I'm just waiting for his response so that i can think of other options. Offcourse i didn't mention that very straight forward but i guessed he'd get me why I'll be telling him all this. Now I don't know what's going on in his mind. I really want to sort things out for myself as my parents are pretty serious. I don't think we both are emotionally so much invested in each other but he seems a nice guy to me. But here's another problem. I don't know very much about his future plans as they do matter to me. I really want to discuss all this with him, ask him about his family and all and let us see if it works for both of us or not. Culturally, i guess in our areas these things aren't practiced but i don't think there's anything wrong in all that. I don't wanna involve my parents into all this directly before making myself sure about things. Can I just myself talk to him directly and discuss it all. Wouldn't he think I'm just chasing him. I would not like that at all. To me it's just a genuine and serious talk. Also, I'm not sure even if after all this my parents are gonna accept this all or not, if they won't i will not go against their choice either. But, i can have the idea by talking to the guy that weather my parents are gonna accept it or not.
Plzzz give me the right advice.
Plus if i initiate it how should i text him, what's the right way.
I'll be very thankful to all of you guys.