Image 1 — Surrogates are "quite literally wombs for rent"
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Surrogates are "quite literally wombs for rent"

The controversy surrounding Alaskan surrogate McKenna West is *astounding* that you have so many people, so many women, coming out and saying that a woman's right to choose ends with a contract. Remarkable that even those who are "her body, her choice" are saying "jk when a woman signs a contract, her body belongs to the intended parents".

Contracts are agreements typically on the exchange of goods, services, and money. When you are in breach of a contract, you forfeit your goods/services/money and may have to pay additional monetary damages. But this is a woman who is sacrificing her body, time, freedom, for money. What happens when a surrogate wants to keep a pregnancy? Do these rent-a-wombers seriously think that they can physically compel a surrogate to get an abortion? What about if a surrogate wants to terminate a pregnancy? Will rent-a-wombers imprison this woman to continue incubating their baby?

Even if you are contracting a worker to help you remodel your bathroom, you can't force them to do anything against their will. If they refuse to finish the job, they can walk off site and you may be left with a non-working toilet but you cannot hold the worker to finish the job to your standards. Doing so would be forced labor aka slavery. Why is it different when it comes to women's labor in pregnancy??

u/Bennifred — 7 days ago
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Toebiters in 350gal pond

I have some juvenile toebiters in a bucket of Elodea I picked up. I have tadpoles in my pond and I'm looking to keep it frog friendly.

Do I get rid of the toebiters?

(VA, USA)

u/Bennifred — 2 months ago
▲ 14 r/crochet

I finally won at yarn chicken

Yarn: Hobby Lobby "I love this cotton" #4 medium weight, 100% cotton

Size: 42"x60"

Hook: 3mm

16 skeins!

u/Bennifred — 2 months ago

did you experience "proximity to whiteness"?

I am a 2nd gen Taiwanese American who grew up in the suburbs of DC (DMV). After they completed their F1 visa studies, my parents were lured by the federal employment opportunities in the DMV. Lots of other families had a similar trajectory

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demographics\_of\_Washington,\_D.C.

The DMV region became a pretty even spread of ethnicities and solidly upper middle class with the high F1/F4/EB2/EB3/H1B visa immigrant presence. I feel like I didn't have "proximity to whiteness" any more than I had "proximity to blackness" - we were all the children of immigrants with heavy influences from our home countries. Even now, I still live and work in the area and still have the same feeling about my still mostly immigrant coworkers and neighbors. They see me Asian/Chinese American, not "model minority white-passing POC". In turn I also see them as Nigerian/ Ethiopian/ Salvadoran/ Honduran/ Vietnamese/ Korean/ Indian/ Iranian/ Filipino/ Russian/ etc Americans.

I know there are several other areas around the US that have followed a similar pattern. Do you feel similarly?

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u/Bennifred — 2 months ago
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Seeking pond spitter and other recommendations

Hi fellow pond peoples I currently have a 300gal stock tank pond and I am looking for pond spitter suggestions and other aesthetic recommendations (Pic 1 is my pond, other pics are inspo pics)

We are hoping to have the 300gal sunk in the ground with 6-12" above ground. We have a 110gal plastic stock tank we want to use as a bog filter. We are open to cutting the 110gal to form a spillway. We are thinking of either putting some sort of decorative edge

So far we have

  1. putting in a seating area
  2. putting in a void for plants
  3. simple wood surround
  4. simple brick surround

For spitters I am mostly seeing generic frog/fish/bird spitters. Where are you guys getting your spitters from? I wouldn't mind shelling out some cash for a custom one

I have a 3200GPH pump.

u/Bennifred — 2 months ago
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Question for cruise hookers

ETA: If you do bring scissors on board, can you add if you put it on checked or carry on?

Question for my fellow crocheters (or knitters, embroiderers, etc). How do you prepare for bringing them on board? I would like to bring something to work on but I don't know if I would be able to bring scissors on board.

I checked the cruise prohibited items list and it notes scissors are prohibited but large craft scissors are ok https://www.carnival.com/help?topicid=1202 .

I normally use small folding scissors for my work. Should I attempt to check in my scissors or should I get the large craft scissors that are exempted from the prohibited items list? Alternatively, would I be able to borrow scissors from crew members or from guest services?

https://preview.redd.it/lojfkihg2s2h1.png?width=573&format=png&auto=webp&s=327d7be9ea88ede9e43681c0a7cdd519139e63d9

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u/Bennifred — 3 months ago