Advice on avoiding pregnancy in the morally “right” way
I am a 21 year old wife and mother of a 1 1/2 year old. We live in a 2 bedroom apartment and cannot afford anymore children right now. I am a new convert (just baptized on easter) and my husband is a non catholic. I have had an IUD since I was 13 to regulate my cycles and then after I had my daughter because I was told it was high risk to get pregnant before the 18 month mark in my condition. I understand rules are rules but I am struggling to figure out how to navigate this situation I have seen so many women online saying to be abstinent and take out the IUD but I am terrified. I trust in God I truly do. However I am terrified of being pregnant again my pregnancy was awful and my labor ended in a life risking emergency… on the other hand i have also heard others speak about how intercourse is good and holy I shouldn’t deny my husband of it and it is supposed to strengthen my marriage… I just feel incredibly lost. I feel so guilty and selfish having my birth control even after my baptism. I am genuinely afraid of the consequences of removing it both because of my awful cycles and my fear of pregnancy. Am I the only catholic woman who is battling this? I am so embarrassed even asking this question so I apologize in advance…