u/BigHouseBarbell

Has anyone ever seriously considered leaving a choir they’ve been in for years?

I’m in two community choirs right now, and the difference in culture between them is honestly night and day.

In one group, the music is fun and challenging and there are good people there, but over time it’s become harder to stay motivated. Rehearsals regularly start late, there are side conversations, people come and go inconsistently, standards feel uneven, and new leadership (2 years) issues never really address them. I used to serve on the board and eventually stepped away because it felt like the same few people were carrying everything. I also stopped my administration and engagement on the private Facebook group because it felt I was posting reminders, notes, etc for just a few people.

Lately I’ve noticed I sometimes have to force myself to even show up, which honestly makes me sad after 5 years with the group.

Then I go to my other choir and the energy, preparation, accountability, and overall culture are completely different.

At what point do you decide a choir is no longer the right fit, even if you still enjoy singing and care about the group?

I’ve been trying to simplify my digital life and cut back on social media. For the past few years I've only use Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn, and Reddit.

Facebook is the one I keep debating. I barely scroll or post anymore, mostly just to stay connected to family around the world. But a few local groups I’m involved in, especially choirs, use Facebook groups as their only communication channel for updates and schedules.

For people who left Facebook, how did you handle that? Did you keep a minimal account just for groups?

Help!