u/Biggest-Benjamin

So I have heard a theory that one of the reasons Europe became a great power and dominated the world in such a short period of time is that Europe was constantly fighting with itself and others for more and more limited resources in smaller and smaller areas. This gave them a a kind of Martial based history and culture across the continent. However war, violence, and fighting is not uniquely European. The warlords of China, the many civil wars in India, the warrior cultures of Meso America, the raiding and pillaging of the Khans and the Mongolian empire all show that violence and war are VERY human traits. So why did the European brand of such human traits turn out so much advanced technology at a faster rate compared to the progress of other cultures? Is it just coincidence or am I missing something here? This also might just be an uninformed take so please correct me if that is the case.

I know it’s a wordy question but I have been wondering about this for the past few months. Before the 1950s and even before the Industrial Revolution, (when families and peoples of all types were living with large families and generations under one roof), how did those children, teens, young adults, and adults into their mid 30s feel like they were progressing and becoming more mature and more like responsible adults in and part of a community? I myself am almost 29 and have been living all my life in the same bedroom I grew up in with my family. More and more people my age and generation are living at home with family and feel stagnant and like over grown teenagers more than adults capable of lives. However, for most of human history, living in the same house with family for years and years was by far the norm. So how did those young people back then grow and develop in things such as dating, identity, personal freedoms, independence, personal choices, and becoming a wholly fledged human with fully fledged lives?