Robyn's Big Pitcher
Season 18 and now we've all fully seen the real Robyn. This woman floors me. She claims to want to grow old with the sister wives on their rocking chairs surrounded by grandkids. She's alluded to being in a pro- big family or one house picture yet she's done nothing to actually display that she wants that. She was with Christine on not wanting the one house plan yet later she said things that made it feel like she was not opposed to it (trying to make us believe she really is all about family). The problem is she's not really all about family. She likes the idea of all these things, set in a perfect world, yet in reality she can't handle it.
In reality she is all about HER wants and needs. She joined the family baggage full (yes, I said baggage! Kids are a heavy load and their needs to grow until an adult are expensive, difficult, and emotionally draining (yes, there are rewards too) not to mention she had TONS of financial debt that she was carrying into the family and that does affect the whole family). However, she played super nice and made her and her kids put on their happiest keep sweet face and follow the rules to a T and treat Kody like a king because she thought she was joining this wonderful family that had everything one could ever dream of. I'm exaggerated but anyways.
Kody is head over heels for this woman who is basically acting like a keep sweet angel! And the way she's acting has added so much and weight and pressure on the other wives because Kody never knew how "amazing life could be" and how he could be treated like a patriarchal king with a loyal wife who apparently doesn't ever talk bad about him behind his back and has his back all the time and tries not to fight with him. Robyn has said that before, that she tries not to argue with Kody ever and said the other wives should probably try to follow that same line instead of butting heads with him or stirring up controversy.
I understand that but it is vastly different from the way their whole family has always functioned. This is one of the major differences that led to their downfall. The three wives all had a certain idealogy of how the women are independent and matters get to be made by family votes in family meetings or as Janelle would say: she's always just bought things or made decisions without Kody. So the whole deeply rooted concept of "obeying your husband" or "he gets the final say because he's the man of the house(s)" has been encouraged by Robyn and it's a bit off-putting and foreign to the other wives. That's why she DOES shake things up when she comes into the family and Kody saying it's not her fault is wrong. She takes a huge part of the blame for the downfall. It's not just because they went on television, which also plays a part of course.
It's so silly and then all the women are questioning where they're at in their life and how it's suddenly gotten so bad and different. It wasn't just Covid. Robyn's previous monogamous background played a special part in this. She wasn't the "team player" that the other religious wives were. You can tell the other wives were from the same religious culture and that was a part of them. They were acting classy and always trying not to badmouth the others and even helping or supporting the others at their worst times.
Even though Robyn has done a lot of talking, she never ever made big moves to help the other marriages. She sat sulking in anger over Christine leaving yet was she ever at Christine's house trying to show support or mediate or any kind of understanding? No. If she really wanted to help fix it she would have done everything in her power to. She would have demanded that Kody spend more time with Christine. She would have sacrificed her "Kody time" with Christine because Christine always said her relationship was failing and she needed more time with Kody. She sat in her house not reaching out to the other wives, begging Meri to "hang on" even though Meri said she was rarely ever called. This woman is so selfish. She wants the wives and the man yet she wants and is okay with the man never having intimate relationships with the other wives. And then when the wives start leaving she throws a tantrum about her big picture. No one is going to want to sit in a rocking chair beside you all happy and pretending. Heck, even Meri, you're good "friend" isn't invited inside the house when you guys visit. Y'all have to sit outside in the cold. And she loves Robyn's kids so it's weird that Robyn's not saying, "come on in and spend some time with the kids. They want to see you. We love you". No, Meri gets in her car and leaves sadly. It's ridiculous.
She's now said she's questioning the family and how good and happy they all were when she joined, talking to the camera people and Meri. She's basically wondering if she got duped and she's upset about it because she had this "big pitcher" in her mind! Ugh.
It's just so blatantly obvious she's selfish and has only looked out for herself from beginning to end. She comes into the family with below zero yet she wants all of what they have and then some. She got a gorgeous wedding, gorgeous houses, years of big family events and support. Years of the other wives trying to be like her and trying to be nice to her to win a crumb of Kody's love for themselves. It's ridiculous.
And it doesn't just affect her and Kody; she affected the whole family in a big way. If you think about where they would be financially and emotionally if she didn't ever come into the picture, it would be a lot different. Every extra child comes with needs and wants. She's got a big family and that's a lot of extra pressure. I'm so sure Kody's relationships with his children would be at least a little bit better than what they are now if she never came into the family. Having a relationship requires time and energy and with that many kids, it's hard. I think he would have been fine with the amount of kids before Robyn, even though it's still a lot, however Meri only had one so..yeah.
There have been moments where I've felt some sympathy for her but overall she knew what she was getting herself into and she was looking out for her self and her kids and she should have known that no family is perfect. She could have been constantly chewed up and spit out by guy after guy but she's lucky that Kody and his wives were super sympathetic and welcomed her to the family. Those women love her kids. And I'll never believe her whole "horrible background" story she came from in her cold trailer. Geez. Give me a break. Everyone goes through hard times. It wasn't that bad. I highly doubt it. There's a picture of her kid's Christmas a long time ago and there were a LOT of toys. I don't think her life with her ex was that horrible. Some people don't even have a credit card to shower their kids with gifts.