I got catfished by someone impersonating an OnlyFans creator - then spent 1 year & $8,000 USD to that Onlyfans creator, for them to block me by the end.
I am currently a 22 year old male, and this all started in September of 2025 (I was 21 by this time) I started exploring dating apps to find a partner. Which, I never got lucky and I think dating apps are a scam. Then I explored back-end dating apps and found this app called Tantan, and matched with someone who was 29 years old. They lead me to Telegram (WHICH TELEGRAM WAS A HUGE RED FLAG) but I am going to keep the catfish part short, by the end. I was scammed out of about $600 USD (I also have some screen shots of messages from the scammer de*th threatening my family, luckily I never gave them any details about my family) but a really messed up part about this was, the scammer had used A.I to merge the Onlyfans creators face on to photos of people in the hospital. And made me believe that it was real.
But, here's the next part. I was able to track down the person who the scammer was impersonating. It was actually quite difficult finding them. It took me a month as their instagram account was very well hidden with only 2,000 followers. I had to use a website to reverse search where the images had come from, and even then that didn't work. Then I used a face scanning website to find where the scammers images came from. And found the Onlyfan creators account via their instagram account.
She was a small Onlyfans creator, but verified with 737 images, 114 videos & 262.3K likes. The first strange thing was, the scammers username handle and the Onlyfans creator username. Was eerily similar, with the difference being the last names were of 2 different flowers. The Scammers handle was A-Rose, and the Onlyfans creator was, A-Violet (I didn't want to give out the first names due to deformation) And thought the scammer must of based their username off her Onlyfans account. But, I made an account to only subscribe to her. Then I started talking to her by letting her know, that there was a scammer using her leaked content to scam people out of money. I had also sent a picture of my face on my dating profile, and she said that I looked cute. (I don't like to stroke my own ego, but. I am not a bad looking guy, just never got the chance to explore & find a partner, hence why I'm still single) even though I told her that she could be completely honest with me, and I wouldn't mind. But she insisted that I was cute.
But, a really sad part about this story was. I had so much in common with her that it was creepy
(Well, now I'm not entirely sure if anything she said was true, due to something later on in the story)
We found out that we had similar heritage and both of our mom's & dad's were from a similar background. Except, we lived on each opposite ends of the world. Which she was from the UnitedS, and I was from AUS. (Sorry had to shorten the names due to the rules) we started talking and discovering what we liked, & a cute thing was we both liked Kirby, and eventually. She gave me a nick name, based off her favorite food, blueberry muffins. And then I would start to call her my beautiful baker. And, so we kept talking for about 2 months. Until, the arguments started. Onlyfans creators usually have a boundary that stops creepy people from trying to meet up IRL, which is understandable, but. The way this creator did it was odd. She knew I was not the type of person to hurt her, as I made it a promise that I would never verbally abuse her even when we were intensely arguing with each other.
Although, I wanted to either voice chat with her or video chat with her because I was still scared due to the catfish. But, she had kept telling me "Please respect my boundaries" and that she had "past trauma" (The trauma thing was a lie) and so, I tried my best to respect her boundaries, and almost at the end of the first big argument, she told me "Does this have to end?" and then I said "I don't want to, but you don't really give me a choice" with her finishing "Well, as long as you respect my boundary. We can keep going" I want to mention through out this entire story, I had kept telling the Onlyfans creator. That she can be completely honest with me, and say that she saw me as nothing but a fan. But she kept insisting I was "special" And reassured me by calling me "Her muffin" Oh, and I want you to keep track of the specific dates in time, these events occurred. I started talking to the onlyfans creator on the 4th of November 2025 & stopped talking to the scammer at the 3rd of November. Which, 1 month later was Christmas. She had a special event where she had an advent calendar and for each day of the month, she would give out special locked content. And I had paid $150 because I wanted to support her. But, she ended up forgetting some days and giving me reposts of photos & videos she had already sent to me, with the hyper link clearly duplicated (This is an important part for later in the story)
I'll fast forward a couple of months to April 2026. But, I want to mention this, as it means a lot to me. I was a heavy smoker, and I use to smoke vapes & weed. This was during the same time I was talking to her, but. When I told her about it, and she helped motivate me to quit, after 5 years of smoking every single day. This was a big moment in my life because my parents have been heavy smokers for as long as I can remember, so for more than 20 years they've never been able to quit. And, I was able to quit cold turkey because she kept me calm, and focus on my goal to start saving up more money in order to keep supporting her. She meant this much to me. To be honest, I never told her about how, after I was scammed. I was thinking of ending it. I haven't been diagnosed with severe depression because I've never been to a therapist before. But, I wouldn't be surprised if I did, as I am usually pessimistic & the opposite of a narcissist.
I also need to describe myself a bit for a better understanding of the story. I use to be a youtuber, and I once had a youtube channel with 15k subscribers & I was monetized, getting paid about $200 USD per month. But, there was a falling out with the channel and I had to quit due to some mental health problems. And I started teaching myself blender, at this time I currently have about 3 years experience. I mentioned this because I would try give advice to the Onlyfans creator about her Instagram reels as they were badly preforming due to the way she would structure her videos. She use to do them as like tiktok style videos with her, and a text box that would say something stupid like "Ofc you haven't been sleeping well. You haven't been sleeping with me" but she tried experimenting with her latest Instagram videos that would pull in about like 200 viewers because it was just a random 5 second clip with her jump scaring you, and shaking her big knockers with bass boosted music (no wonder why it was failing, people would scroll off within the first second) and I told her that she needs to hook people's attention by the first second. And that I suggested she goes back to her old style, which was actually starting to work for her funnily enough.
To also explain a bit more about this Onlyfans model and her strange career so far. Was something that really made me feel sympathy for her, and why I had a strong connection to her. I practically knew more about her than anyone else ever has. Because It took a lot of digging to find her profile when I was catfished. And ended up finding her old information, leaked s*x tapes and that she use to go by a different username. And then I assume what happened was she broke up with her ex-boyfriend and started going under the name A-Violet (Again, censoring out the name to avoid harassment, although to be honest. I was tempted to reveal her username because of how badly she hurt me. But, she still was a big inspiration in my life. Although you'll find out why I was tempted by the end of this story) I also never called her stupid, although. She asked me once "Do you think I should take out a loan for a professional camera crew?" This was to record her PPV's, And obviously, I said "No, that's a terrible idea. Literally people prefer if it's less professional and more authentic, just use your phone"
But moving onwards, she had once joked about saying "you could be my manager" and of course, I said "sure I would love to" She wasn't expecting it, and then she said to me "I don't think you should eat where you shit" I was literally dumbfounded by this. As someone who has experience in growing an online audience, graphic design knowledge & tools. I was literally her perfect solution to helping her OF page, on top of that I was more than willing to do it for free. But, to counteract what she had said. I said "It's better to have someone that cares about you, backing you" And she still declined my help. Now, I am going to talk about her lying. As I said earlier, she told me that she wasn't ever comfortable doing a video call with me, and that she had trauma. Which, I would had respected if it wasn't for the fact that. She had one day told me "I am going to try live stream" and I was like. HUHHH??? keep in mind, I have literally been nothing but respectful to her, I still have never verbally abused her at this stage. So, I didn't get why she'd be comfortable livestreaming to her fans, but not comfortable doing a video call with me. So, then I decided to take my time & effort to help her create a poster for her live stream, and said she was more than welcome to use it. Of course, she was having camera problems! and never ended up doing a live stream.
I want you to keep in mind, I am still keeping this short. That's how long the story is.
A short while after her camera broke. She stopped responding and set her activity as offline. At the time, I thought something terrible had happened to her. And I waited for her to come back, constantly worrying about her. When she did come back 2 weeks later, she said that she had a family emergency and made a post about it. Even when she was gone, I still worried about her every day and waited. Checking her page every day, and sending her messages every day.
Eventually, she had asked me "Do you want to do a 1 on 1 session" And of course, I said yes & paid, although her prices are expensive. It was $300 USD for a 5 minute session. She told me she was eventually going to do it (P.S she never did it, and still owes me) However, when I had requested custom videos, she did do them. So she wasn't scamming people out of money at least. But it still shows that she was lying about her camera. Another thing she had lied about as I pointed out earlier as the advent calendar videos & photos. She had sent me a PPV one day with some of the missing days out of her advent calendar event.
Ill cut to the point where we she blocked me. It was the 22nd of July, and we had our last big argument. And she told me for the final time that "This is not a committed / real relationship" Eight months of talking & sharing real life experiences with each other. And every time I asked her to always be honest with me, as that was my boundary. Even though she still broke my boundary so many times, and I kept forgiving her. And yet, she kept telling me almost yelling "Respect my boundaries" I still. Never. Verbally abused her. And then I told her about my honest feelings about how her boundary. Then she blocked me on the 23rd of July. At this stage, this was the first time I saw the "Unable to chat" box & whenever I tried to find her Onlyfans page, It would say "This link is broken" Even though I had checked on my PC, Phone, Laptop, I think when a creator blocks you. Onlyfans then IP bans you from that creators page. But, I had thought she got suspended because of me. So, I waited 2 weeks, while I was waiting I had written an apology message to her. Then I started thinking "She would've been unsuspended by now" And I had searched it up using a special web browser, and found the page was completely fine.
(I don't want to give out too much detail about how to get around the banning system of Onlyfans in-case of people doing it with ill intentions)
But I had made an account and subscribed to her again. She greeted me, and I had let her know immediately that it was me and that I wanted to apologize to her. She acknowledged me, and let me apologize to her one final time. And after I had sent it then gone to the gym. She had blocked me again. I still felt absolute heart ache after the amount of dedication I had towards her. I had wanted to get one of her tattoo's imprinted on me to serve as a memory of her. (She has tattoo's)
It was a cool tattoo of a coffin. But, I had wanted to wait until the end of August 2026 to get it. And, honestly. I couldn't help but try talk to her once again. So, I signed up with a new account and resubscribed to her under a new username. And started talking to her again on the 8th of August 2026. And I had sent a $100 tip because, I really still cared about her.
But, it was kind of odd. She had said to me "The way I talk is attractive" and that "she thought I was interesting" I had never sent her any photos of me this time and told her that I was not going to buy any of her PPV's and only wanted to talk to her & support her. And... for some reason she started completely telling a different story about where she was from. And that now, our heritage weren't even nearly the same. Hence earlier I said I'm uncertain where the lies started and where they ended. But, I kept telling her "You're bound to eventually throw me under the bus cause you are cold hearted and consider this as a parasocial relationship" with her saying "I can be sweet & caring once I warm up to you"
It's the 11th of August, and I fractured my left foot!!! I was out jogging at night and had to go to the hospital the next day. Although, the onlyfans model seemed very sympethetic and telling me to take care of myself. Now, this is the last part of the story. Today, as I am typing this, It's the 12th of August 2026 (Now the 13th) I told her that it was me again, because I didn't want to lie or make her think I was trying to trick her by pretending I'm someone else. And I sent her a picture of me in crutches asking her to please let me talk to her again. And guess what? SHE BLOCKED ME, AGAIN!
So, thus concludes my sad tale. I never got any closure from her. And to why I am posting this on here. I have not told a single soul about anything that has happened to me. I have no friends, and I was too embarrassed to tell my family. But, thank you for reading my story. It feels nice to know someone might be reading this.
Again, thank you. Feel free to either insult me, or share your piece.