Long story short I got rotated into a new location this past January and came in on day 3 to find the heat was off and the shop was FREEZING. It was just me and one other coworker we'll call "C." We turned on the heat on and bundled up but it took hours for the shop to warm up so we were both freezing our asses off.
A third coworker "E" showed up around 10am, and I explained how the heat was off when we got there at 6am and how we almost froze to death.
At which point "C" blurts out, "Yeah I almost had to kill boysenberry_decent and use her skin like a blanket to keep warm!" I was absolutely stunned, I kind of just gave a confused huh. Then coworker "E" must have thought that was a hilarious joke (these guys are both mentally ill and depraved) and blurted out "Imagine you said that to someone on a first date."
Later that day I demanded an apology and got a very sarcastic fake apology from "C". I get some some people on here are saying its not that bad. But that joke in the context of jokes about locking his wife in a dog cage, jeffrey epstien jokes, being rude/ aggressive to female passengers at the railway stations, shit talking random women in the street, calling our female governor a fucking bitch etc. I think its pretty safe to say this person had issues with women.
Now 4 months later I got rotated into a gang with "C" 's cousin and when I overheard someone in this gang talking shit about "C" & "E" I just blurted out "Oh fuck that guy. He joked about murdering me and using my skin like a blanket." Just blurted it right out without even thinking then realized oh shit his cousin was like 10 feet away.
A) Am I crazy for having a huge issue with that joke? Many of the guys I told that to didn't seem to bat an eyelash but I think it's an absolutely insane thing to say to a female coworker, especially someone you dont know.
Coworker "C" who said that fucked up joke is a nepo hire so I'm worried sharing this information will somehow negatively impact my career. Should I "keep quiet" about this incident? Or share it if it comes up in conversation like today? It feels like I'm carrying around a pretty big secret. Plus why should I keep his shitty jokes a secret if it made me uncomfortable I should be allowed to say that.
Thanks for hearing my rant. And thanks for any advice.
No I'm not going to report this person, they're a nepo hire and it will only end badly for me.