u/Brave_Coffee5208

I won’t bore you with the details but the short version is I have been taking care of my mom in my home for 3.5 years, with essentially no help from 2/3 of my siblings. In fact, they stopped talking to me because I was “mean”. I am convinced they are dumpster fires with narcissistic tendencies, so I have just tried to be grateful I don’t have to deal with them much. Anyway, for some reason they have now decided they care about me and one of them has offered to host my mom for “a few weeks” in her house. 3 years ago I would have jumped at the idea, but mom’s dementia has really progressed. She essentially has no short term memory and relies on routine for her security. She is very dependent on me for everything and I think it’s likely if she slept somewhere else she would just get scared and call me in the middle of the night like she did when she was in rehab 2 years ago. What do you think? Should I be open to it? Maybe I’m too far down this hole to know what’s good for me anymore

I know it’s been said a million times here and elsewhere, and it’s not as if I should be surprised, but today it really hit home to me that all the friends and relatives who abandoned my mom in her dementia also abandoned me. I was close to so many of those people. They watched me and helped me grow up, they told me they loved me. And now they are absent. I’m so grateful to the one uncle who acknowledges and thanks me for my care, who still calls mom even though a conversation with her basically involves responding again and again to the one thing she keeps repeating. I’m just so pissed off and sad. So sad, man.