u/Brawlingpanda02

Basically, today my boss came up to me and asked if I along with a coworker wanted to participate in a meeting with higher ups and be the spokespeople for our department. I said sure and was told, “they’ll call you soon to book a time for later this week”.

We were called 5 minutes before I was to go home, and when everyone had gathered the one leading it said “great! We can start”. By then, 8 people had joined. I was told this’d be a small and short meeting just to go over how we work, but it turned out differently.

They wanted in depth knowledge about company processes and such. I’m okay to work a bit of free overtime because my boss is very lax about when we come in and leave, so I was like “sure this’ll take like 30 minutes”

After 1 hour, we had barely started. I told them right then and there that we had to reschedule within our working hours.

Now I’m thinking about seeking compensation, either that I go home early some day or get paid. This meeting was totally unorganized, and while I should’ve ended it earlier I don’t feel like I, as a mere employee, should have to tell 8 higher ups people from different departments and time zones to reschedule because my boss couldn’t properly organize a meeting.

Do you think that’s an ok ask? I’m very new to this whole corporate stuff, all my earlier jobs has been “you work when you’re scheduled and get paid as such”, but this is different.

As a guy people didn’t care and it was so easy. Jeans and a buttoned shirt, or hoodie with sweats, or such. Everything I bought fit decently and it was easy to style myself in the mornings.

As a girl though there’s so much going on. There’s jeans dresses skirts sweats chinos and so on. There’s endless amounts of tops, some are meant to be combined with others but is hard to fit right. The materials matter as some materials don’t fit with others. And then there’s necklaces, rings, earrings, etc… Not to start with all the shoes too 😭

On top of all that there’s HOW you wear stuff. You can let a sweater hang loose, tuck it in partly, tuck it in fully, and so on. Like there’s so much going on.

I’m 2 years into my transition and I have managed to get a few outfits, but I really struggle with how to style myself. I therefore tend to dress very simple, which makes me stick out :/ I don’t mind it too much personally, but to be truthful I become very self conscious around other girls because I feel like they just… get it.

Has anyone felt the same but overcame it? How do you get better at styling yourself? I’ve tried to read up on body types etc… as well as I can and therefore have managed to get a few fits, but I find it so incredibly tough. Over half of what I buy gets thrown out / donated because it just doesn’t fit right, even if it feels ok in the stores.