u/Bs7folk

I know the venue gets a lot of hate but it feels like they have listened and turned things around a lot?

Went there for Colorize last night, which naturally is going to get a nicer crowd (older, melodic heads). It was great!

Security were decent, sound was on point. No issues.

My take is that the quality/crowd etc of nights now is largely artist/label specific. But as a venue and overall experience, it didn't live up to the old rep.

If it matters, 38 years old, so would like to think I can present a reasonable review!

Assuming usual efficiency game of paying minimal 12.5kish salary plus dividends (which I can live on ok) what do you do when it comes to mortgages/remotgage?

Be a good boy and declare everything fully for 12 months so your payslips and bank statements look good, then revert when you are sorted? Or declare minimal but use the saved cash pile for a larger deposit to bring dowm borrowing?

We'll need a new mortgage to upsize in a few years. Just thinking ahead.

God damn, I cried. Rerupture*

About 15 weeks out of first rupture, and I came out of the boot 2 weeks ago. Doctors and physio were pleased with the state of recovery, I was walking normally and feeling good mentally and physically (but knowing there was still a long way to go).

On Monday I was getting some fresh air during a lunchtime walk...my right floot clipped a pavement slab that was like a thumbnail higher than the others. Jolted me, I put that foot down hard and felt that sharp tear!

I knew immediately and just started shouting and crying in the street. So frustrating.

Back to hospital (London UK, luckily I live 2 minutes from it) and in a cast again yesterday, nownawaiting appointment for a scan - they said likely MRI as ultrasound isn't clear enough with a healing tendon.

The only good news is they said the tendon still feels attached, so likely a partial tear - so not quite back to day one...maybe reset 3-4 weeks.

Anyone else? My spirit was crushed yesterday, a bit better today. But it scared me about the future - does lightening strike 3 times?

Hi all,

10 weeks non-op and recently transitioned into trainers with a small lift.

Anyone else experience pain? Dull ache / very tender around the heel.

I'm assuming after a week or two of normal walking my foot will readjust, the fat pad will thicken up, and the pain will subside? I notice if barefoot around the house, my foot on the injured side is very sensitive to different textures underfoot, even changing from wood floor to carpet.

Thanks team

Curious really. Both mid 30s and been together 3 years, living in London with a manageable mortgage and two well paying salaries. We live a very good, active life, which I know is a priviledge.

We were both seemingly indifferent when we met but for whatever reasons, we seem to have gone in seperate directions on this recently - me keen, her not.

What happens? Can't imagine life not together. Does the feeling for kids fade? She jokes about this being the only situation where she would let me have a mistress to have a baby with - we laugh about it but sometimes it feels like she is serious.

Any wisdom?

Edit - we have and openly continue to speak about it at length, which has always been a huge positive about our relationship. Not expecting Reddit to solve it, but I think it's always useful to hear lived experiences.

Her reasons (she is a medical professional for context) - our parent friends seem constantly exhausted and complaining about life / through work she has seen the bad end of it all / we were both latecomers to finding 'success' in life / do we want to bring a new life into this world given the direction of travel. We are the fun god parents to one, uncle and aunty etc, which she is happy with.

Just an appreciation post - in my humble view from almost 20 years of dancing, the Finsbury Park and Royal Naval College set ups have got to be the best we have seen in terms of London day events.

I know each event differs based on artist and labels but having been to a range now, they're consistently good - sound, setting, organisation etc. Long may it continue.

Hi folks,

Any inspiring success stories of doing your own thing be it freelance or launching your own thing after a long time in the corporate world?

Sadly I'm being made redundant after 14 years (current role is director - been here since graduate trainee), initially I was distraught but having cooled off, I'm quite fired up to do my own thing - I have built up a good reputation and relationships (some of whom have said they would come with me, I know that only matters when paperwork is signed) and have negotiated my non-compete down by a few months.

It's a leap but ultimately it's pressure on my terms, not lining the pockets of a few other people. No kids yet and have a mortgage.

Would love to hear other experiences, good or bad.

Thought this might be useful as London festival season kicks off and people always ask. And I get it can cause anxiety for younger or newer folks.

A little pup took a liking to me this weekend - it's purely a game of nerves and intimidation.

Got taken to the tent for a more thorough search and on the way the security were saying all the usual stuff - what you got, hand it over, now's the time to tell us etc. I was bricking it mostly as I didn't want to not get in and miss the sets, but remember only the police can fully strip search you.

I remained calm knowing they couldn't go into my boxers/gooch, while I took my socks off, made me shake my shirt etc. Kept asking me, I made some light hearted remark about being too old and preferring to dance sober these days which they laughed at. 5 mins later I was on my way.

Stay calm, take your hat and sunglasses off to suggest honesty and compliance. From what I understand, most people panic and give themselves up, or are already looking wavey in the queue. I was actually sober at this point, so there's also luck.

Happy dancing!

Wow. Blown away by the place, being amongst the trees is always so lush and I love how the stage and lighting is integrated. Reminded me of the original Glade stage at Glasto.

Sound was bang on, the second stage was absolutely bouncing mid afternoon.

And naturally the crowd was so friendly and warm, nice mix of ages and demographics, which seems to be the way with melodic, uplifting stuff.

They really enforced the no cameras policy which was nice, crowd was so much more engaged both with the music and eachother (lots of sharing treats with strangers). It felt that as a result people were more comfortable letting loose.

All in all, 10/10

My partner (38f) and I (36m) are only recently starting to really flourish career and income wise. I recently moved back to London as she is here, I own a house elsewhere which covers itself on Airbnb.

A lot of our friends are now having their first or second kids. It's impossible not to feel that pull when we are around them, and we love kids.

But honestly, it feels like we are just enjoying life too much at the moment, we are big into live music, festivals, travel etc and the freedom. And the income is aligned to that. I'd say half of our big group are decidedly childless and likely to remain so.

Any others been in this situation? Time is not on our side if we do want them, and if we did we agreed we would want two, having come from larger families.

My 'fear' so to speak is getting older and regretting it.

Just musing and looking for other views really.

Edit - might be worth adding, we have been together 2 years so are still at that new, slightly wild exciting part. Especially having come from other 'bad' relationships. So perhaps that plays a part in feelings atm.

Edit 2 - thank you everyone, we appreciate all the responses, especially the personal anecdotes from both sides of the fence.