Dating Advice
I 24(f) started seeing a guy 25(m). I myself have Lupus and Sjögren's. He has Crohns. He disappears a lot and stops responding at all, when I believe he is having issues. He has not been very open about discussing these problems. I don't draw attention to the stomach growls or when he's constantly going to the bathroom. My family has a history of IBS. I have been around stuff like this a lot. I have no judgement, I don't think it's gross. My question is how do I meet him where he needs me, if he doesn't really talk about it.
I want him to feel safe and comfortable. I want to know what are safe foods, what isn't. I've been researching everything to try to have as much information to adapt to what can help him. I don't want to pressure him or make him feel embarrassed. What can I do? How do I approach this safely without causing him to push away? I know he sleeps a lot and that's fine. I want to make things official, I want to be a team with him through this. Surgeries, embarrassing moments, doctors appointments, if he feels unwell and needs to leave. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.
Edit: Thanks to anyone who is giving advice.
I do not mean to offend anyone about the IBS comment. I meant it in the way of having experience with embarrassing things happen to family members without the ability to control that. I want to start a relationship with him. I don't want it to be built on a foundation of hiding and shame. I don't want him to feel embarrassed. I decided I am going to open up about some of the things that happen with my autoimmune and try to go from there. I'll wait for an opening to have a discussion with him about what he would need from me.
If he wants space, I'll give space. If he wants comfort, I'll be there. If he wants support, I'll learn. If he wants to vent, I'll listen.
Feel free to continue giving me advice. I want to provide a safe space for him. <3