u/BunniStealsCars

So I’ve been going to the same church my ENTIRE life and I don’t have a single friend. Ever since I seriously devoted to Christianity I’ve lost my boyfriend, friend group, and even an entire side of my family which realistically I am SO grateful for now that I don’t have any bad influences (per se) surrounding me. The issue is I got used to being kind of popular and for the past few months I’ve been at my loneliest I’ve ever been.

Before anyone says “join the youth community,” I sit in the youth section every Sunday, I’m apart of youth night setup/breakdown (meaning I’m with 13-19 y/o all day Sunday) and I’ve introduced myself to like everybody but I just can’t seem to make but a single friend. I know one guy who’s been really great and tries to make me feel included but I feel so guilty solely leaning on him. I’m usually super extroverted but this weird new anxiety feels like the devil is literally pulling me away from Christ centered people.

What do I do??

Location: North Carolina

Recently I got my name legally changed to my stepdads last name and its 100% official. Now I’ve been wanting to get my license and in doing so I need a new birth certificate but the only way I can get one is if my biological dad presents ID.

At first, my biological dad wouldn’t respond to texts until being pressured by my mom. Now they’ve scheduled an appointment for Wednesday but Father’s Day came up and I didn’t post him for Father’s Day and now he’s mad. He told my mom unless I respond to his texts he won’t come to their meeting Wednesday. I plan on responding but there’s no way this is allowed.

To clear some things, he has zero legal custody over me and we are mostly no contact unless he decides to take me somewhere that benefits him which is usually twice a year maybe

My main question is WHY does he have so much control over my life and my whole future with the whole birth certificate thing when he doesn’t do ANYTHING

And is there any way I can remove this control other than filing for abandonment?