u/Burque-Beaches

Going by Emily Post's etiquette we are told that sending invitations to distant relatives that you know will not attend is a kind courtesy. It makes the relative feel special to be included and they may like to keep the invite as a keepsake, however, we have 31 names of family who fall into this category. What if they all end up making it? That's a sudden cash outflow for us of $4,500-$5,000. Is it worth the risk? The wedding list is at 160 before adding in the 31 and the budget won't allow for more than around 110 total. So we already need to cut 50 more names and we're still left with the 31 who "should" be invited--so we'd be sending out 140 invitations and hoping only 110 rsvp "YES." Would love to know how to manage this with grace.