u/CanIorMayI

Hi everyone, I’m hoping to hear about your experiences and gain some perspective.

I’m 34F, and I’ve been dealing with recurring anterior uveitis since 2020. I'm also HLAB27 positive, but have not been officially diagnosed with any other autoimmune condition. My rheumatologist says I may have an inclination towards Ankylosing Spondylitis but it is not present yet. I've only had 3 episodes so far but my episodes have become increasingly aggressive, requiring me to step up from Prednisone to stronger corticosteroids - Durezol/difluprednate. Because I’m worried about the long-term side effects of relying solely on steroids, I recently saw a uveitis specialist who recommended moving to DMARDs, specifically Methotrexate (MTX).

This has been a lot to process because my husband and I were just starting to consider family planning. The specialist advised that he wants me on a 2-year treatment plan and that I absolutely cannot be pregnant during that time. This news has really halted our plans. We are also currently exploring egg freezing options.

I’m hoping to get some input from those who have been through this:

• How did you respond to Methotrexate? Did you find it manageable? Any specific side effects?
• Is MTX typically a lifelong medication, or have many of you been able to stop after a certain period?
• How did you navigate family planning while on these medications? Were you able to pause MTX and start trying for a baby after 2 years? Did you experience any lingering fertility impacts?
• I’m planning to ask my doctor about switching to pregnancy-safe biologics instead of MTX. Has anyone successfully advocated for this switch, or had a similar experience navigating insurance/doctors to get on a pregnancy-safe alternative?

Any advice, personal stories, or questions you suggest I ask my specialist would be so appreciated. Thank you!

I’m a beginner looking for some advice on my workout schedule. I’m a 34F trying to get into strength training by lifting weights 3 times a week using a split: Legs, Back & Shoulders, and Chest & Arms. I like this split quite a lot but each workout is more than an hour with warmup etc. Right now, I’m really just trying to build the habit of going to the gym consistently so I started with 3 days.

To be honest, I can be pretty lazy. If I fall off track, it’s incredibly hard for me to get back into it, and motivating myself to go in the first place is a struggle. I used to end my sessions with 10–15 minutes of cardio, but I recently stopped because I’m tired by the end of my workout, and it already takes over an hour. I mostly train in the evening after work.

My husband keeps pushing me to work out more as we're trying to hold each other accountable for workouts. He can be more spontaneous with fitness, he can just pick any random day and go workout as long as he is doing his 4 days minimum in the week. I, on the other hand, need structure and a set routine. I want fixed days to work out so I can check it off my list, look forward to my rest days, and know I have free time for other things. When I think a certain day is a rest day and he suddenly says, "Let’s go work out today," it completely throws me off. I've already done my 3-day split, so I have no idea what I'm even supposed to do if I go with him. I am not complaining about him pushing me to workout more, I'm just trying to understand even if I do go, what should I be doing on the 4th day?

That brings me to a few questions for people who go to the gym more often:

1. What do people actually do when they say they're "working out" if it’s not lifting or cardio? (I really don't like doing gym cardio in general but if I have to put it, I can make space).
2. Can I do strength training days back-to-back? Or do I strictly need a rest day between them?
3. Should I change my split to 4 days instead of 3?
4. On random days if you go workout, what do you do that day if it's not part of your structure?

My goals are to build strength and muscle, but I also just want to improve my overall fitness and be healthier. I'm using Caliber app to track my 3 day split. I’d love to hear your recommendations and see what your actual weekly schedules look like! Thanks in advance.

I am posting this here to warn absolutely everyone in the bay area. If you end up eating here by mistake, check your math and demand a receipt, because the cashier is blatantly skimming money and lying to customers' faces.

We went in for a simple takeout order:

Combo: $24

Cornbread: $6

Collard greens: $7

Actual Subtotal: $37 before taxes

Instead, the shady guy at the register tried to force a $57.07 total on us.

When I called him out on the impossible math, he immediately rolled out a series of pathetic lies and high-pressure tactics to lock in the payment. First, he tried to confuse us and rushed us to pay. Then, he claimed he "thought" we ordered mac and cheese, a word that was literally never spoken. Before we could even process his lie and think it through he rushed us for the payment, refused to reverse it, and forced us to take an extra cornbread just to cover his intentional "mistake."

It gets worse. After stepping out with my order and not seeing a receipt in my bag, I went back to ask for a receipt as it made me believe that something was fishy. He completely refused to provide a receipt, claiming he couldn't print a previous order and told me to just take a picture of his screen showing a new subtotal for a completely different order.

When I stood my ground and demanded a hard copy, he claimed he had to "cancel and re-do the order," and then tried to make an order total of 57 somehow. So whatever tip he claimed I added earlier was now manually keyed in by him as a line item, meaning he charged us tax on a forced tip just to make the arbitrary math hit exactly $57.

He didn't "accidentally" order mac and cheese. He stole our money, and tried to withhold the receipt so we wouldn't catch him.

This isn't just bad service; it is literal theft and consumer fraud. I have kept the bogus receipts he provided us, and I am filing a formal complaint with the local authorities. These people belong behind bars, not running a restaurant.

DO NOT GIVE THEM A SINGLE PENNY.

TL;DR: Cashier overcharged a $37 takeout order to $57.07 by forcing a couple of items we never ordered, rushed us on the payment before we could even think clearly, refused to print a receipt, and then later produced a new order receipt and added the tip as a line item and taxing us on it. Watch your bank statements if you've been here. Ideally never go there.

Edit 1: grammar

Edit 2: added another detail which I thought shouldn't have mattered but some people are going bonkers on this!

I am posting this here to warn absolutely everyone in the area. If you end up eating here by mistake, check your math and demand a receipt, because the cashier is blatantly skimming money and lying to customers' faces.

We went in for a simple takeout order:

Combo: $24

Cornbread: $6

Collard greens: $7

Actual Subtotal: $37 before taxes

Instead, the shady guy at the register tried to force a $57.07 total on us.

When I called him out on the impossible math, he immediately rolled out a series of pathetic lies and high-pressure tactics to lock in the payment. First, he tried to confuse us and rushed us to pay. Then, he claimed he "thought" we ordered mac and cheese—a word that was literally never spoken. Before we could even process his lie, he rushed us to the payment anyway, refused to reverse it, and forced us to take an extra cornbread just to cover his intentional "mistake."

It gets worse. He completely refused to provide a receipt, claiming he couldn't print a previous order and told me to just take a picture of his screen showing a new subtotal for a completely different order.

When I stood my ground and demanded a hard copy, he claimed he had to "cancel and re-do the order," and then tried to make an order total of 57 somehow. So whatever tip he claimed I added earlier was now manually keyed in by him as a line item—meaning he charged us tax on a forced tip just to make the arbitrary math hit exactly $57.

He didn't "accidentally" order mac and cheese. He stole our money, and tried to withhold the receipt so we wouldn't catch him.

This isn't just bad service; it is literal theft and consumer fraud. I have kept the bogus receipts, and I am filing a formal complaint with the local authorities. These people belong behind bars, not running a restaurant.

DO NOT GIVE THEM A SINGLE PENNY.

TL;DR: Cashier overcharged a $37 takeout order to $57.07 by forcing a couple of items we never ordered, rushed the payment through before we could stop him, refused to print a receipt, and then later produced a new order receipt and added the tip as a line item and taxing us on it. Watch your bank statements if you've been here. Ideally never go there.

Edit: The management has responded to my email to them that they'll be refunding my order from their end. But no other comment on what their action is to address or rectify this act in the future.