Dating someone with fnd
Hello all! To give some back story, I met someone, last year on a dating app, who has been battling fnd along with some other severe conditions as the result of a traumatic accident from several years ago. I feel like this is going to be a long post so, bear with me here. I'm going to try to be concise.
They haven't been romantically involved with anyone for about 4 years, and they are reluctant for reasons they can't fully control, at the moment, but they've also made significant strides, when feeling well enough, to begin to fold me into their life.
How do I deal with what feels like constant rejection when they have to cancel our very limited time together because they are not able (often times they say they don't have the social battery)? And also how do I deal with them saying no to me to oblige family even when they don't feel up to whatever they're asking of them. Definitely something more involved than us chilling out and watching a show together.
They do not seem to be understood by their family, at all. They have memory issues and their caretaker even says they can't understand why/how they don't remember things. It makes me sad that I'm not given the opportunity to make them feel more valued and in the midst of them trying to keep peace with their own family I feel as though I'm getting the shaft.
I'm not saying they never make sacrifices to be with me. But how can we make things better? I haven't seen them in 3 weeks and there has been multiple cancelations since then. It's hard not to feel like it's me. And I just really want to be in their presence. 😞 please know that I realize people and life are complicated. I just feel really isolated trying to talk to my normie friends about it because so many people are ableist af and look at things too reductive. I was hoping someone could help to encourage me. I don't want to give up on them!