Living alone/purchasing a property by myself after leaving long term relationship.
Hi everyone,
Just looking for some advice and maybe even some positive words.
I have recently discovered my partner of 11 years is cheating on me and at this point I'm over it. I have no intention of fixing anything- we had similar issues in the past and he is not going to change-i know i should have seen it coming but here we are.
The problem is i have moved from abroad for him to live here, due to his job we moved multiple times from England to Scotland and now in Northern Ireland.
I have no family here, no friends.
I work from home so don't even have the opportunity to meet anyone and I'm basically home all the time almost isolating from the world.
My mental health is at the worst atm, and i can't see a way forward- I'm just existing without any joy in life.
Moving back home is not an option for me either-my family was 1 of the reasons i left in the first place.
He was the only person i thought i could count on and i can finally see I'm all alone.
We don't own our property and have no human kids -thankfully (we have a cat and a dog)
My plan is to give myself a year to save as much as possible and buy a property on my own here in NI.
Is this doable for a single person?
I have about 25k in savings at the moment- and hoping to save additional 5-10k in a year.
I don't earn too much, around 1700/month after tax and I'm worried i won't be able to afford mortgage by myself. I don't even know where to start or what are good locations to look for+safe for a foreigner to live alone.
I also don't want him to know, I'm sure if i bring it up he will be able to convince me to stay because despite everything i still love him so much and can't imagine a life without him. And i don't want to show him any weakness now and let him manipulate me again with promises of getting married.
So here i am, pretending that everything is okay during the day and smiling and cooking for him as always while he is messaging other woman and then crying myself to sleep next to him every night.
I think i just need someone to tell me it's going to be okay and this is all manageable because right now it all seems impossible for me, my brain still can't comprehend that a person that's supposed to love you and care about you and whom you were planning your future with is just lying to your face every day without any guilt while it takes all my strength just to pretend i don't know about the messages and all disgusting things i found out.
And I'm sorry this turned into a sob story.