Does anyone else have a family member they get embarrassed about due to their hygiene and won’t go places with them unless they are clean and presentable? How do you cope with them in your life without conflict?
I will delete this soon as I don’t want to make anyone feel bad ..
So my family member who grew up clean and healthy has in the last year just got really lazy with their appearance and can’t be bothered looking after themself it’s not depression or mental health.
As they can do it when they want to,
I believe it’s because they get everything else done for them that they have became lazy and it’s too much effort and they have got into a lazy rut of just going around with greasy hair and being unclean looking which is their business and that’s respected
It only becomes my buisness when they ask me to go places with them and I don’t want to unless they go for a shower and are clean and tidy because it embarrasses me and it triggers me so I remove myself from the situation and then I get bitched at and shouted at for it
What would you do? Mind your own business and keep back like I am doing or force yourself to go with them and be triggered which really affects my mental health.
I have tried supporting them and letting them know I am worried about them, also tried to help them get to the route of why they can’t be bothered, iv even offered to wash and blo dry their hair a couple time a week and then I get accused of trying to put them down
But I refuse to inhale their stink or be around them when they are unclean I am the same with another family member who can’t keep a clean and tidy house I won’t visit them unless it’s clean as I can’t sit in it or help clean and tidy it because it’s too overwhelming and it gets messed as soon as I leave
It’s not my place to keep other people in check or control their lives so I mind my business and remove myself, but then I get put down for that so I can’t do right for doing wrong 🙈