I’m a M28, and I’ve been friends with a F24 for more than 5 years. We were really close friends, we used to talk every day, share secrets, and we understood each other perfectly. We don’t live in the same city.
About 10 weeks ago was the last time we talked. We had a problem that I see as a misunderstanding. Because we were so close, I suggested the idea of dating, thinking we already had a strong base.
But I tried to be “clear” and said that I wasn’t in love with her and that I was just suggesting we try and see if it could work. I also asked if it was okay and said I was cool if she didn’t want it, she said she prefer to stay just friends, and our relation is perfect as friends.
After she said that, I was mostly worried that she might feel bad thinking she had rejected me. I didn’t want her to feel guilty or uncomfortable about it, and i said to her : ( i am not in love with you or something so no worries about me )
She didn’t like it at all. (the fact that i am not in love with her) She said it was rude and disrespectful, and that she didn’t expect me to say something like that. After that, our relationship became very cold.
I apologized more than once and tried to explain that it was just a misunderstanding.
and the fact that i worried about her not about me.
But she told me clearly after days that she is not comfortable talking to me anymore.
The last message I sent was:
“I am ready to fix anything between us to go back like the old days, and I would be very comfortable talking with you again.”
For context, I don’t have feelings for her now. I just miss talking to her because we used to talk every day and had a very strong connection as friends.
Right now, we are still friends on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok, but there is zero interaction at all. We both post a lot (more than 20 posts per day on Facebook). She removed me from her 2nd Instagram (close friends only), and she sees my Instagram stories but doesn’t react.
So my questions are:
Why did she keep me on social media? nd didnt unfriend me?
And what should I do now?
Is it a good idea to contact her again, or should I wait for her to make a move?
Honestly, I feel like I’m waiting for a sign from her, because based on the last message, the decision seems to be in her hands.
thank you fam ❤️