u/Competitive-Pick8063

Hi everyone,

I accepted an offer from a software company, and their HR team has started pressuring me to submit my resignation before the background check is finished because they want me to start as soon as possible. They told me not to worry as long as everything on my resume is accurate.

Honestly, this has made me very uncomfortable. Is it normal for HR to ask for this? Any advice?

In the country where I live, the minimum legal notice period is 5 weeks. This company wants me to start with them in 5 weeks, which means I need to resign this week without the background check having been completed and approved.

In 2022, I received my PhD in geophysics. struggled to obtain a postdoctoral position. I finally got one in 2024, but I had to pay for it myself. I haven't been able to locate anything since it stopped in September. I'm beginning to feel like a huge failure and don't know how to leave the profession I've worked in my entire adult life.

Has anyone experienced a similar situation, will appreciate any advice.

I'm 23 years old, and I feel like I've hit rock bottom. I don't have a degree or any real qualifications. My job is manual labor in a warehouse, with grueling hours for a salary that barely covers rent. Honestly, I'm constantly stressed about how I'm going to make it to the end of the month.

My family never had money, so college was never even an option for me. Now I see people my age online talking about their careers, how they're saving money, and not living paycheck to paycheck. I want that so badly it hurts, but I feel completely lost and don't even know how to take the first step.

I'm not looking for a get-rich-quick scheme or a magic solution. I know this is going to be incredibly hard and need a lot of effort. I'm willing to work hard, learn whatever is necessary, and build a real future for myself, even if it's slow. I just need to know where to focus my energy and effort.

To anyone who has been in this situation and managed to get out, I'm begging you for any advice. What was the first thing you did that made a real difference? What skills did you learn? If you could go back in time and talk to yourself when you were in my shoes, what would you say?

Seriously, any advice at all would help me so much. I'm tired of feeling so stuck.