u/ConcentrateSubject23

I wanted to reach N1 by 3 years. I am behind schedule.

December would be about 2.5-3 years. Next July would be closer to 3.5 years.

I’m at around N2 level. I’m relatively confident I can do N2 by December. For that reason, I don’t really want to take N2. How much reading and effort would be required to reach N1 assuming I’m at N2?

I know for sure it would be a stretch, especially considering I anticipate my life to get way busier in the next few months. I’d like to get an idea and advice from others who have done it. Any insight is appreciated.

Man this is hitting way harder than any other birthday. Am I considered old by most 20s now?

Why did no one warn me that 27 is old by young societies’ standards, and that it’ll come so soon after 25/26? Lol. Fuck.

In all seriousness, I’m worried about how I’ll be treated socially. I haven’t traveled as much as I wanted to. I haven’t dated nearly as much as I wanted to. Now will most 22-25 year olds consider me too old to date?

I feel like I’ve just spent my twenties working. I don’t regret working hard, but I do regret not spending 5% of my time just dating and traveling and letting loose a bit to have stories to tell.

I feel alone. Just wanted to tell someone before my mid twenties are over. I feel like an identity of mine is dying, a chapter is being closed and can’t be opened again.

I want to preface this by saying that I really like Japan. I’ve been studying Japanese for about two years, and most of my experiences with Japanese people have been very positive.
Before today, I had the impression that younger Japanese people were generally neutral or even positive toward Korea. Among my own friends (mostly Koreans and Korean Americans), Japan is viewed very positively.
Today, however, I had a two-hour conversation in Japanese with a Japanese man in his 50s. The topic of Chinese tourists came up because I mentioned that when I visited Kanazawa, I noticed many of the foreign tourists were Chinese.
He then told me that he disliked both Chinese and Korean people. I mostly dismissed it as one person’s prejudice, but I let him explain his views. He argued that Koreans are taught to hate Japan, and that Korea should be grateful because Japan modernized the country during the colonial period, saying things like Japan “rebuilt Korea from the ground up” and even built Seoul National University. I didn’t really challenge him because I didn’t think it would lead to a productive conversation.
At the end, though, he said something that stuck with me: “All Japanese hate Koreans.” I replied, “That makes me sad, because I’m Korean.”
I know one person’s opinion doesn’t represent an entire country, especially since he was older and seemed quite nationalistic. Still, it made me curious.
How common are views like his in Japan today? Is this mostly a generational thing, or do you think they’re still fairly widespread? I’m especially interested in hearing from Japanese people about what you’ve observed among your family, friends, and coworkers.

I live in NY. I have for about a year. I do see some of the appeal — it’s exciting, it’s convenient, there’s always something to do.

But some people LOVE NY. And also some people seem to get so much out of it.

What is it that you love about New York? How can one maximize their enjoyment and opportunities living here?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Due to not renewing my lease, I have to move this month.

My current apt was a steal at 3k.

My next apartment, I also got at a steal (?) price at 3k, with my next apt being rent stabilized.

But I’m starting to get second thoughts.

Everyone who visits my current apartment says the area is so nice. I’ll really miss being a short walk away from Central Park.

I’m worried I won’t like the new neighborhood. Anyone else know that area well? Advice is appreciated.

SDE II at Amazon, 4 YOE.

I’m in charge of 5 different projects at work now, with each one a “high priority”.

AI has decreased the amount of time and focus required to make a feature, but as a result has increased the need to switch from thread to thread.

I’m sure others are dealing with this now. How do you manage having to juggle many more projects at once? Or do you not?

4 YOE at FAANG. My biggest regret is not believing in myself. And now that I have learned how to forge my own path, my life and my job is so much more satisfying.

I’ve had multiple people at my job brush off my ideas when I tell them. I’ve even had one person say to me “that’s the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard”. Then 3 months later he literally stole my idea and presented it as his own to leadership. I was fuming. From then on, I’d get so angry when people put my ideas down, and I’d get even bitter when someone takes on a project I wanted to take on.

Ideas are the most fragile in their infancy. They are also the most indefensible since you don’t have proof yet. So don’t share it with your coworkers. They’ll want to drag you down to their level, or worse just copy your idea.

People are way less knowledgeable than you realize. You’ll wonder if you’re dumb since you know everyone around you is smart, yet no one seems to agree. You should give yourself more credit. If you’re constantly wondering why is it that no one sees what you do, or thinking that you must be missing something — tell your manager because you likely have found an opportunity. Believe in your own path. Trust your manager and ask them for advice on how to make your vision known. They will love your initiative, and hopefully they support your vision. Managers actually understand what is valuable to a company or their team more than the average IC does, and they have a vested interest in growing you whereas your peers (unfortunately) don’t. At least not directly.

I’ve recently done this with my manager. I said I wanted to realize a vision and pitched to him sloppily. He gave me amazing advice, and now after just a month my idea is a real product internally. I just presented it to my whole team, and my skip manager wants everyone on my team to use it with plans to present to my org in a week’s time. My director has direct visibility into this — if I play my cards right, my idea can easily be expanded to other domains, which means I’d be leading an org-wide initiative.

Now when I see others take on a project I wanted or when I see others putting my ideas down, I don’t get nearly as emotional. I just say to myself “this person doesn’t have the context to know why this is right” and move on. This confidence has made my results and my satisfaction in self actualization much better.

Sharing my thoughts before I sleep — these are things I wish others told me when I was a junior. Hope this helps.