u/Confident-Fee4791

I had a baby with down syndrome 2.5 months ago. I was devastated for the first month. Slowly I have felt myself change my thought process on it and accept it. He is so precious to us, so snuggly, always looking at us and giving the best smiles. He feels so personable already. The love I have for him has crowded out the sadness and I hardly feel sad anymore. Here is my question - will this change as he grows? I obviously know there will be hard moments and a lot of work. And I know each person with down syndrome will be different, but I am just wondering if there's a certain point when this feels significantly sadder of if my love for him will always make this feel manageable. I see a lot of posts on social media of people talking about how amazing their down syndrome baby is, but you don't see it near as much as they grow. Hope this makes sense.

I had my 4th baby with DS right before I turned 36. I honestly wasn't aware of the significant increase in risk for DS by this age and I didn't even feel old. Now I feel that everyone is looking at me "oh the old mom with a down syndrome child." I feel guilty.

TW: negative post

I had an at birth diagnosis a few months ago and I am still struggling so much. I have 3 daughters and now my son who has DS. myself and my daughters have had chronic illness for years and have gone from doctor to doctor trying to figure it out. I struggle badly with postpartum depression and depression in general. Our marriage was struggling before this. I feel incredible guilt for my geriatric pregnancy. I am so upset that this has been added to our plate and I am angry at God.