u/ContentObjective3711

When I say did you/are you - this is for both current and past university students.

Could be just me but at university, I felt verrrry single. Had so many friends and classmates who had been in multiple relationships since the age of 15 and those who had long-term relationships or went through at least 1-3 boyfriends/girlfriends throughout the 3 whole years.

Did you meet anyone and had a long term or short term relationship? There were a few people I fancied at university but didn't like me back or weren't interested in a relationship. Some who fancied me but I didn't like them back.

Either way, someone lied when they said you find your significant other at university lol. Idk if that was more common 30 years ago when dating apps weren't really a thing so people feel they have more options through social media/dating apps now, hence not feeling the need to actually explore or date?

No ones saying you need to date, I never felt the need at university. Dating is not some contractual obligation once you become an adult, but I also did feel the pressure from other friends to be in a relationship, despite not really wanting to be except for the few times I had a crush on three people throughout undergrad.

What's your experience?

Now that I'm an adult, graduating last year, I've been thinking a lot about my time in school. Appreciate this is a weird post for this subreddit but thought some could resonate.

Obviously not every teacher is like this and I've heard from friends, or have friends who want to go into teaching that are sweethearts and doing it because they care for kids and want to be the support system they never had.

But in my school, every teacher was a big fat loser. I remember specifically having at least 4 teachers who students were genuinely petrified of. They would yell at every opportunity they could when unnecessary and seemed to live to punish kids.

I remember one deputy head screaming at a girl who was visibly distressed and crying her eyes out in the middle of the hall, where everyone was watching. It was because she left her bag out instead of putting it in the place you're supposed to.

Another teacher who would scream at students who would forget their textbooks. Had some teachers who would police girls about their makeup.

I had one teacher call me a liar over a really reasonable situation, we were out on a school trip. I got lost, came back late and when I explained just being lost she called me a liar and that I was messing around.

I am now in my early 20s, I just see these teachers as massive losers. A lot of them (not all) peaked in school, or couldn't find a job anywhere else and chose teaching, they are miserable people who like to shout at 12 year olds to feel powerful.