Life after graduating is so lonely
During uni I didn't really bother hanging out with anyone and didn't care about making friends. I'd just go to my lectures and go back to my room. I'm an average looking guy so women weren't into me as they'd only go for the really good looking guys, so I didn't bother with dating either.
My uni routine would literally be wake up, go to lectures, get something to eat, go back to my student accom, go to the gym, do uni work, chill watching movies and Netflix alone on my laptop. I had so much spare time because I wasn't socialising and I figured that as I had no friends or social life I might as well just go all out with revision and applying to grad schemes.
Even though I didn't socialise I weirdly never felt lonely because I was still going to lectures and was around other uni students my age and I'd occasionally talk to them when we had group assignments and stuff like that.
All the revision and grad applications paid off and I graduated with a first and got a £70k grad job as a software engineer for a tech firm. I honestly felt great because all that hard work and all the FOMO of being alone throughout uni paid off as I got a high paying grad job.
Now even though my routine is the same apart from work replacing uni, I feel so lonely it's crazy. My routine is literally the exact same as it was when I was in uni except now work has replaced uni. So I wake up, go to work, eat something, come back from work, watch movies and play games, and go to the gym a few times a week.
But I feel so lonely it's honestly so strange. I think it's because in uni I'm still around people my age and we're not really proper adults as we're still in an extended version of school and we're all in the same boat. But the moment we graduate we all break off with our own lives and will never see most of our cohort ever again.
I think it's also because in uni I was in grindset mode and didn't care about being lonely as I was on a mission and it paid off with the grad job and the first. But now I'm no longer in grind mode and have been treating myself a bit with the money from my grad role I'm reminded of how lonely I am when I'm doing things alone.
I've heard many people from my course moving back to their hometowns and living with their parents because they couldn't find jobs, or they've got a job but it's in a remote part of the country far away from the people they know. I know I have it really good with my well paid grad job but I've noticed I'm feeling a lot more lonely now than I ever did in uni even though I'm going out a lot more by myself and am treating myself.
Anyone else notice something similar when they graduated?