I'm 21 with a "spending disorder seeking help already, and my parents want me to send my paychecks into their checking.
Location: Minnesota
First time writing, so.. idk how this will go.
for context: I 21 F, still living with my parents over summer break, while I'm not at college. I've recently been called out on my bad spending habits by my parents about spending my money. I told them I needed help, so now I'm on a waitlist for a DBT group. ANYWAYS
I have scored two jobs to work over the summer from now until sometime in mid-August. I hope to at least work 40 hours each week. But one of the jobs I'm freshly hired for, and my folks want me to make my direct deposit into their (my dad's) checking account. They are only doing this bc I've started taking two summer classes for college, and they aren't super happy about that. I offered to pay my summer tuition, but they never said anything. (For my usual tuition, they pay half, and the grants and whatever do the rest. while I'm also working on campus.) So... So far, I haven't paid my tuition myself and have paid for other things like books or programs I need for my major.
I've already talked to some friends about this, and they think it's crazy and that it's my money, so it shouldn't even go to them. But on the other hand, my parents are sort of mean at times, they really like to guilt-trip me, and when I call them out, they just get upset, so I've just learned to stop defending myself cuz they'll never believe me. I've texted my therapist about this and haven't gotten a word back from her yet. I even told my boss about what was happening, and she offered to say that my direct deposit has to be under my name, but I told her I didn't want to make my parents upset. IDK what to do, and I'm scared that I'm never going to see the money I worked hard for. I'm just unsure what will happen if I leave to go back to college for my senior year, and what they will do with MY money.