Balancing Home/Work without a helper
I hope this does not come off out of touch, I would truly just like some insight into how to plan for the future.
I am a final year international student studying here in Australia. I am getting married soon after graduation and hoping to start a family in about 2 years (before specialty training). Something I have been struggling a lot with is how working doctors are able to manage home responsibilities and work. My partner and I are both planning to be working parents and my mom was a doctor too so seeing her as an example, there was never a time where I imagined my self not working/ career breaks etc for the sake of family. She is very accomplished as a specialist but she was also super present attended most of my school events/put me to bed drove me to school etc. However growing up in hindsight it’s super evident to me that none of this would be possible if we didn’t have a live in helper ( which is super common and affordable in my home country) Our helper who is like a second mum to me was able to take care of household responsibilities cooking cleaning etc and was a trusted childcarer in the event my parents could not be home and had night shifts/working late hours. I truly cannot imagine our household functioning and my relationship with my working parents being as close knit as it is without our helper. (A help and sacrifice we do not take for granted. We absolutely adore her and are still close though she is retired now).
My question is how can my partner and I as young parents and junior doctors manage household/work/kids balance without help. We are both continents away from our families and are no where near being able to afford live in help. I understand this may seem like a non issue to people who have grown up in houses that have never had help but I really am not sure where to start. As a soon to be doctor who didn’t grow up here I want to excel in my career but also really wants to be a good and present mum one day.
Any tips would be greatly appreciated:)