Thoughts on Pairs being right for me?
I have been reading other people’s posts about it and want to see what others think in my situation. In the past I have used bumble and tinder in Tokyo and met some close friends through bumble. I feel like I am reaching an age where I want to settle down long term with kids and thinking of the future despite some of my western friends in relationships saying otherwise. I’ve spent my early 20’s in non serious relationships and hookups back home and clubbing with all the other expats in roppongi, kabukicho, shibuya etc and I am not interested in that lifestyle anymore.
Now I’m really looking for someone who is career oriented that sees things as a partnership and not the traditional japanese housewife type that is dependent at home and it seems pairs has the community options to filter that. Looks wise i’ve had numerous times i’ve been stopped because people think I am hafu but I’m just someone who’s mexican with a high spanish to indigenous mix. I’d say im good looking but probably 2 levels below the guys you see on social media who work at hostess clubs. Salary wise i am also leagues above the average mid 20’s Japanese guy.
But my biggest cons I see for Pairs are I’m N4 but continuously working on learning Japanese and I basically dress like Nobuo from Nana which can have either a positive or negative impact on Japanese people depending on their lifestyle. I’ve had good experiences with avoiding gaijin hunters but given the way I dress + pierced ears I feel like the women demographic on Pairs would not bat an eye because I am gyappu. Really people probably would expect me to be dating alternative girls who dress like the Toyoko kids in kabukicho