u/DalFennec

(Try no 2 now that i have fixed the user flag thing)

Hey folks! I am not the best at these sorts of posts but here goes.

As stated in the title, older trans woman (6 years into HRT) just mostly looking for connection and community. Would love to make some friends around the same age but happy to chat to whomever. I do warn that I am AuDHD and not always the best socially but I try. Preference to talk online for a while before any plans to meet up if you are local.

General geek interests. Currently playing a lot of Palworld. Previously was playing Civ 7. I tend towards single player games but could be easily be convinced to try something new as long as it is not horror.

Anyway, yeah. If a geeky girl appeals to you as a friend then say hi I guess. Oh, I do also note in case it matters that i am Demi/Ace so not really looking for anything more than friends presently.

(Edit - spelling errors)

As the title says. I transitioned years ago now and have been working at the same place since long before then so I am quite openly out at work. Now, other than one specific person who has since retired, I never really had any issues with being openly out. What issues there were were mostly due to ignorance rather than maliciousness.

However, over the years and still now, I occasionally get told how 'brave' I am to be trans or a similar comment. Some say it with a comment of 'given the world right now' and similar. The issue is that it tends to make me feel uncomfortable even if i know they are trying to be supporting.

I have tried to put words to it for a while and I think being told I am brave feels like they are treating me like this was a choice. Like how is it brave to choose between doing something that would help me not want to end myself vs what? Pushing through until I finally crack and go through with that?

I don't know if I am putting too much thought into it or what not but yeah, it just makes me feel like they think I wanted to be trans, as if it is a choice and not just a reality that I have to deal with one way or another.

Anyone else have things like this or am I just overthinking it? I am AuDHD so it could be something I am misinterpreting.