[CA] New Business Partner makes Misogynistic remarks, makes me uncomfortable
I work remotely at this awesome 9-5 corporate job I never thought I’d get without a college degree, especially in my early 20s. I recently got offered a promotion 7 months into working for the company. In preparation I’ve been shadowing my predecesor before he leaves, listening in on calls without being in the call itself.
This position works in tandem with another person: an internal/external dynamic.
My predecesor regularly has calls with the external partner I am to work with, a 45-50 year old man with a wife and kids. He’s been there several years and is one of the top ten in terms of performance. Sometimes he’s aware I’m listening in on these calls, others not. Sometimes he is told and forgets, other times he’s never told. He is always aware he is on a recorded line though. In theory, anyone could be listening.
During these calls, whenever he isn’t aware I’m listening, he makes rather inappropriate comments. Two in particular stand out.
- “There are hot fucking chicks in little skirts there” (when asked why he chose to go to a casino on a work trip)
- “Yeah, she’s a pretty girl, I bet that opened up a lot of doors for her…[predecesor mentions she was promoted quickly]… yeah, somebody’s gotta like her.” In reference to a female coworker. Having worked with her, she is very qualified.
I really don’t want to work with this man. I don’t want to go on for hours here, but just know he’s got a real scummy vibe. Based on his view of women, I fear I won’t be treated with respect in a role that is largely dependent on us working as a team.
He’s already made backhanded comments on my lack of college degree and on my nervousness going into the new role.
In my experience at past jobs, going to HR has always backfired on me, and this is my first corporate job. I really don’t understand the corporate game, and I’m scared that I’d be making a huge mistake by speaking up. I also really need this promotion, as I really need the money.
What should I do?