I made the mistake of looking at a future coworker's Facebook. Do you have tips for giving them a chance when I'm worried they'll hate me or, the teens who come to the library?
I do teen services at a small public library, there's less than 10 of us who work there. We just got a new children's librarian and they'll be starting later this month!
I looked them up on Facebook to add them as a friend, and saw that they've either worked or volunteered at a Christian camp that's very homophobic and transphobic.
I'm a little worried about how our working relationship will be because I'm nonbinary, bi, and an atheist. I'm way more worried about the teens who come to my programs. A good chunk of them are queer, and all of the straight kids love and care about their queer friends and family. On top of that a few of the kids are in the closet and have only told their friends at the library (I overheard, but I'm not saying shit because I don't want them to get in trouble with their families.)
I don't want to assume my new coworker will be nuts though. I have longtime friends who love their faith and are queer themselves or who care about their queer loved ones. Including some of the teens I'm worried a nut job would go after.
They could be a great addition to our staff and I'm hoping to ask them if they'd want to run a Bible study group after getting settled in. One of the teens is very religious, but also very respectful and loving towards her friends and everyone else. She's been asking if we can do a Bible study at the library for a while, but I don't think I should run it because I'm not Christian. She'll be thrilled to have a Bible study group run by someone who went to a Christian college, unless the person running it starts trying to convince her that her friends are evil or "sick" because some of them are trans or gay. She's young as heck but has already figured out that's some bullshit.
I'm worried they'll make the teens feel unwelcome, or that they'll try to out the kids that are in the closet, or that me and them won't get along because they don't want to work with someone who's queer/atheist, or that they'll try to remove a bunch of the queer books from the library.
But I really REALLY want to give them the benefit of the doubt and hope that we'll be good coworkers towards each other! And I'm worried that even if they're an awesome person my fear of them hating me or hurting the kids would make me act weird towards them, and make them feel unwelcomed!
I haven't even met them in person yet, all of these worries are based on them being associated with a really creepy summer camp.
Have you gone through something similar? Do you have any tips for something like this?