u/Delicious_Cap0

▲ 45 r/nairobi

Victim blaming on femicide victims

It's saddening how a girl will die or be reported murdered and the first thing that comes to a man's mind is "she was chasing a soft life" and even go ahead and say smth like "she died in the line of duty" straight up referring to her as a prostitute with zero knowledge of who she is where she comes from and about her life.

Why not just think from the perspective that she was a girl in love looking for companionship but happpened to fall in the wrong hands.

Victim blaming has become so common lately people out here are justifying murder same way you'll hear a girl was raped and they'll first question how she was dressed.

Can y'all please not.

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u/Delicious_Cap0 — 9 days ago
▲ 49 r/nairobi

Guilt feeling after declining a link up

Been talking to this guy for like two weeks now. So of course as usual you'd to meet in person with whoever you've been talking to so he tells me to go over to his place. I tell him I'm not comfortable with the idea of meeting someone in his house for the very first time. He proceeds to ask if there's anything about him that gives a weird vibe it's not something you can tell from a simple glance. He continues to insist about meeting at his place and I'm equally having a bad gut feeling. Considering what's happening to other uni girls around I wouldn't want to be next. And also I believe house dates as a first date are just for easy sexual access and all...

Being an empath sometimes you don't know how to decline something and meaning it. Like you'll say no then go ahead and feel bad like what if I hurt their feelings you know...so didn't I went ahead and just postponed the date planned for meeting hoping to just go ghost in between the dates and forget about it until I get that morning talking about meeting up and all I got bold enough to stand my ground and I just got blocked.

Now my mind is on what if he was actually a good person, what if I over thought into it, just the many what ifs. I'm just genuinely confused.

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u/Delicious_Cap0 — 11 days ago