47F caring for my mom who has dementia, fully remote, getting RTO'd in October and I cannot do this.
My mom lives with me. She is 76. The dementia started getting bad two years ago. I have a part-time aide who is here from 9 to 1. After 1pm I am here, doing my work, with mom in the next room with the door open. She doesn't always know I'm in the house. She knows I am in the house.
The aide costs $2,800 a month. Full-time would be $7,400. We do not have an extra $4,600 a month. We have considered it carefully. We are at the limit of what we can do.
The RTO is October. I have eight months. I have a meeting with my manager next week to talk about acommodation. I have a folder. I have receipts. I have a letter from mom's neurologist already drafted in my email. I am preparing for them to say no and looking for what else I can do.
If anyone here has been a primary caregiver and successfully gotten remote accommodation, please tell me what worked. I'm not asking for sympathy. I'm asking for tactics.
The folder is on my desk. It's the third one this year.