u/Doc_Jon

Help!!

I have two huge (8ft tall) and highly productive plants that had to be removed by a home remodel company. They tried pulling them up with a backhoe so I could try moving them. Hardly any smaller roots but the base appears whole.

Is it worth it to try to save? I have extra soil, peet moss and pine chips and two lare empty raised beds that i had hoped to transplant them too.

Is there anything special I need to do for them? They have berries I will remove but otherwise is there any trimming that needs done?

Any help is greatly appreciated!!

I am a veteran. I am also a physician at a VA. I have been here for approx 4 years. I have been tempted to use the veteran's crisis line, but I am afraid. I AM NOT SUICIDAL, and I have no thoughts of harming myself or others. I just feel alone.

There have been staffing issues for the entire time i have been here. I have worked hundreds of extra hours to the point that it has hurt my marriage and made me a worse dad. Whenever I have a predictable schedule, it gets changed. A couple of months ago, I was approved for FMLA, and I take a day or two at a time every couple of weeks, mainly for marriage counseling or mental health. Now my schedule has been changed again, and I think it is in retaliation for taking FMLA days. It is starting to feel like being stop lossed again. Every time there is a light at the end of the tunnel, the light moves further away. I can't plan family events, vacations, or reliably show up to my children's sports games. They are young, and they just see that their dad goes to work instead of spending time with them. It crushes me to hear them cry that I broke a promise of spending time with them when I have been called in for short notice coverage.

I am an OIF/OEF veteran. My wife is a veteran, too. I love taking care of veterans. Vietnam veterans helped me use my GI bill and pushed me to go to medical school. I am a doctor because of Veterans. I love my family and my kids, too. I work to provide for them and accept my role as the primary provider and the obligations with that and I am grateful I have a good paying job.

But I feel like all I do is accommodate the VA and an unpredictable schedule over and over to the point it has hurt my family. This has gone on for years. I have brought my concerns to hospital admin, and they don't care. That is one of the worst parts...not even an acknowledgement that I have made the VA and personally filling staffing shortages a higher priority than my family, and when I stop doing that with FMLA, they change my schedule again and act like I am being problematic.

There is no point going to HR. HR exists to help the VA, not employees. I appreciate the thought, but please don't waste your energy suggesting that. One particular administrator brags about how many times they have been investigated for complaints, and despite investigations, they have climbed the administration ladder to deputy chief of staff.

I feel I have no one to talk to. No one at work, no real friendships, and I don't want to burden my wife with this. My best friend from the army passed away 2 years ago, and he was the only person i served with that i kept in touch with. I have never felt so alone.

I want to call the veterans crisis line. I know it is not anonymous and that either the chief of social work and/or chief of mental health will be notified, and reports go to the MCD, and I worry about retaliation.

My question is how much of my discussion would make its way back to my hospital admin? Can I ask the crisis line operator to not include most of our discussion?

Thank you for your time in reading all of this.