u/Dry-Strategy5113

i went on a ‘date’ last night and it was the same, nothing special, no spark no connection. i consider it a simple dinner and coffee out and not a date bc its so bland. is this normal to us non-straight guys or is it just me na kung kailan ko gusto tumino, magsubmit and magsettle, d nmn nag wowork out. pero kapag d ako sumeryoso like for hookups lng, ang daming gusto ako jowain to the point while having sxx sabihan ba nmn ako na jowa na nila ako kahit d nila alam real name ko. made me think and ponder na for fun nlng ba talaga ako? d ba ako kaseryoseryoso?

ps. i sounded like a downer to myself but id be honest, thats just what i feel. im open to straight face slapping comments para mataohan ako.

isn’t it basic dating etiquette that if you’re the one who asked someone out, you should at least be courteous enough to pay the bill?

I’m not saying that I expect to be treated or that I want to come off as a freeloader. I just think it’s sweet when the person initiating the date offers to pay. because it also gives an idea of whether they’re naturally generous and its on me na to refuse and pay 50/50. PS tho i always want 50/50 or kkb bc i dont want it to be used against me but isnt it evil ba to put the person im dating to “test” his generosity?

moreover, is it off putting to say na he’s successful, nice car, traveller but kuripot?

i know dating is expensive and naturally comes with a cost but i wanna know if im dating a redflag or just someone frugal?

hi i went on a date tonight and it didnt go well. sa bumble kami nagkakilala and on the same day he wanted to meet so we did. we had momol sa car and had dinner and coffee after. i kinda sensed na theres no spark between us and i know we will not work. so ayun i went home, nabasa pa sa ulan, sulking and overthinking na maybe im just for fun lng talaga. heres my self reflection every after i went on a date:

1. ang gastos makipag date no?
2. ako lng ba or nagseself loathe din kayo after if the date didnt end up well?
3. is it self sabotage if i told my date na im insecure bc wala pa akong napapatunayan sa self ko? (as a broke college student)
4. should i only date my level? (like same college student, same financial status, same beliefs(?))
5. am i just for fun nlng ba talaga?

i am open and would appreciate constructive criticisms, validation, negative opinions about this. I just wanna know how u guys date bc its always been like this as for me. made me realize na im not for something serious maybe im just somebody’s/anybody’s/everybody’s c^md^mp lng talaga. saddening but thats just how im feeling right now.