u/East_Relation1696

This is my second-to-last day at work - I accepted an offer with another employer. A few of my coworkers are also leaving shortly after me, so our department is literally on the verge of being left with only one person.

Management tried to convince me not to leave and offered me a 12% raise and a $6k bonus. I still said no, because management is really terrible, we're constantly under pressure and carrying more than we can handle, and there are a lot of other issues that have made this place impossible to stay in. Here's where I'm torn: there's one coworker who will be staying. She's already paid less than everyone else, and now she'll be the only person holding down our department in a 280-bed hospital. She said she's planning to ask for more money.

In the counteroffer conversation, the director explicitly told me not to share the compensation offer with anyone. Would you tell her anyway so she has a realistic number to ask for? Or would you respect management's request and stay quiet, even though honestly I feel like they're just trying to keep people from knowing how much she could ask for?

I had another conversation with management yesterday afternoon, and they tried once again to get me to stay because they're in a really bad position, with 4 of us leaving around the same time. We were understaffed the entire time I worked here, and now it's going to get much worse. When I told them I was definitely moving forward with the new role, it was obvious they were very upset. No "thank you for your work," no "good luck," just irritation that I didn't reverse my decision. Pretty much what I expected.

My coworker wants to wait a bit and see if management offers her a raise without her pushing first, but I'm not optimistic at all because they avoid paying more unless they're backed into a corner. I hope she gets the pay bump she deserves, or honestly finds a better place.

The whole thing turned out much better than I had built it up to be in my head. I woke up early yesterday and talked to my manager before the shift. I just told him that I was grateful they had chosen me to work with them, but that I had received another offer that was more suitable for where I want to get to in my career. He didn't make it awkward or anything; he basically said, "Okay, no problem, you'll need to give two weeks' notice," and that was that.

Honestly, I had expected a lot more tension, so that was the first thing that really relieved me.

When I got to work, I told one of my coworkers before anyone else. He smiled right away, congratulated me, and shook my hand. After that, I let the rest of the team know, and they were all very supportive. No one acted weird or upset. One person even said that this was probably a good step, leaving while I still could.

A few of them also said they could be references for me when I asked. They're good people, and that makes it a bit bittersweet that I won't be staying with them longer.

So yeah, the part I was nervous about is over now. Ready for whatever comes next.

Hey everyone:

I wanted to get the opinion of people who are working and have experience, because honestly I keep going back and changing my mind on this.

I work in accounting, and recently a recruiter reached out to me about a senior director role at a large, well-known company with a good reputation.

The base salary would be about 95k higher, and with quarterly bonuses the total increase would come to around 120k. I'm currently making 90k, with smaller bonuses from time to time.

I'm 41 years old and have a family of five. I'm heavily involved in my kids' activities and weekend sports, so that's the part that's making me hesitate. On paper, this is an excellent opportunity, and honestly my current company won't be able to come close to that number in the near future.

The commute would be about 70 minutes each way by train. In theory I could drive, but the train seems like the less stressful option, and I might be able to get through some emails or reading on the way there and back.

I'd really appreciate hearing how others might think about this, especially anyone who has made a similar move before.

Thanks in advance!