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Hi, I got married to my boyfriend in 2024 after being in a long-distance relationship. He is not completely toxic — he is a good person overall — but like every relationship, there were a few mistakes from both sides. He was the only person I had ever dated, and when he proposed marriage, I agreed because I truly believed we would build a happy and peaceful life together.

At that time, he was financially stable, just like many students who move to Australia and work hard. We celebrated our wedding beautifully and with great happiness. After marriage, he suddenly decided to buy a business in Australia as a surprise for everyone, believing it would be the best decision for our future.

Initially, the business went well for the first couple of months, but then everything slowly started falling apart. Since it was his first business, there were many things he did not know, including tax and ITO-related responsibilities. At one point, I even had to put all my gold into a loan to help clear those debts. No matter what we tried, the business was not making enough sales.

We bought the business for around $145,000 in August 2024, but things became so difficult that we were willing to sell it for only $30,000 just to move forward with life. We finally found a buyer, but unfortunately the landlord of the property was also trying to sell the place and was not helpful in extending the lease. Because of that, the sale failed and we were left with almost nothing.

Just nine days before leaving the business, my husband used all the savings we had left from the previous four months to buy a car from Facebook Marketplace. I had advised him not to buy it, but he genuinely believed it would help us because we had a baby and needed reliable transport. We paid around $9,000 for the car, but during our move to a completely different area, the car broke down in the middle of the night. We had to tow it twice, and later a mechanic told us it would cost another $9,000 to repair it.

At the same time, we were desperately trying to find a rental property. Since we could not inspect houses in person and competition was very high, we had no choice but to rent a place through Marketplace. The house turned out to be extremely far from my husband’s workplace, requiring him to drive around one and a half hours through difficult, curvy roads every day.

The house itself was tiny and overpriced — $580 per week including bills — for basically a studio with no separation between the bedroom, kitchen, or living area. We also noticed our 11-month-old baby was having ear discomfort while travelling through the hilly roads, similar to the pressure people feel during flights.

From the beginning, there were also serious electricity problems in the house. The landlord would constantly tell us not to use two appliances at once because the power would trip. Sometimes it would even trip while only one item was being used. One day, I recorded a video clearly showing that nothing was being used and the electricity was still tripping. Despite that, they blamed us and claimed the damages would cost around $7,000.

One night, things became even worse. We suddenly lost both electricity and water completely. We had an 11-month-old baby with us and no way to warm his milk or even access proper water. We repeatedly tried contacting the landlords, but they ignored our calls and messages. We even stood outside their house trying to get help, but they had gone to work.

At that point, my husband could not leave us in that condition anymore. We cleaned the place carefully, even using wet wipes and tissues to avoid causing any issues, and we also recorded videos as proof before leaving.

Now, despite everything we already lost — our business, our savings, our car, and even leaving behind the bond and advance rent — the landlords are still demanding more money. They are claiming we damaged mattresses and asking for $300, claiming a shelf was broken and asking for $150, and accusing us of causing $5,000 worth of electrical damage without providing any real proof, images, or videos. I honestly feel they are capable of creating false evidence as well.

My pain is this: do we not deserve happiness? Ever since we got married, it feels like our life has only been full of struggles and losses with no peace at all. My husband once had a very good life, and as someone from a normal middle-class family, I only dreamed of a peaceful and stable family life after marriage. I am not asking for luxury. I just want my husband, my baby, and myself to live happily and without constant stress.

Now they are threatening us with police and court matters, and mentally I feel completely exhausted. We already lost nearly three years of savings through the business, lost the car almost immediately after buying it, left our bond and rent behind, and still we have no peace of mind.

I genuinely wonder sometimes — are we really that bad? Why does it feel like God is testing us so harshly?

Hi, I got married to my boyfriend in 2024 after being in a long-distance relationship. He is not completely toxic — he is a good person overall — but like every relationship, there were a few mistakes from both sides. He was the only person I had ever dated, and when he proposed marriage, I agreed because I truly believed we would build a happy and peaceful life together.

At that time, he was financially stable, just like many students who move to Australia and work hard. We celebrated our wedding beautifully and with great happiness. After marriage, he suddenly decided to buy a business in Australia as a surprise for everyone, believing it would be the best decision for our future.

Initially, the business went well for the first couple of months, but then everything slowly started falling apart. Since it was his first business, there were many things he did not know, including tax and ITO-related responsibilities. At one point, I even had to put all my gold into a loan to help clear those debts. No matter what we tried, the business was not making enough sales.

We bought the business for around $145,000 in August 2024, but things became so difficult that we were willing to sell it for only $30,000 just to move forward with life. We finally found a buyer, but unfortunately the landlord of the property was also trying to sell the place and was not helpful in extending the lease. Because of that, the sale failed and we were left with almost nothing.

Just nine days before leaving the business, my husband used all the savings we had left from the previous four months to buy a car from Facebook Marketplace. I had advised him not to buy it, but he genuinely believed it would help us because we had a baby and needed reliable transport. We paid around $9,000 for the car, but during our move to a completely different area, the car broke down in the middle of the night. We had to tow it twice, and later a mechanic told us it would cost another $9,000 to repair it.

At the same time, we were desperately trying to find a rental property. Since we could not inspect houses in person and competition was very high, we had no choice but to rent a place through Marketplace. The house turned out to be extremely far from my husband’s workplace, requiring him to drive around one and a half hours through difficult, curvy roads every day.

The house itself was tiny and overpriced — $580 per week including bills — for basically a studio with no separation between the bedroom, kitchen, or living area. We also noticed our 11-month-old baby was having ear discomfort while travelling through the hilly roads, similar to the pressure people feel during flights.

From the beginning, there were also serious electricity problems in the house. The landlord would constantly tell us not to use two appliances at once because the power would trip. Sometimes it would even trip while only one item was being used. One day, I recorded a video clearly showing that nothing was being used and the electricity was still tripping. Despite that, they blamed us and claimed the damages would cost around $7,000.

One night, things became even worse. We suddenly lost both electricity and water completely. We had an 11-month-old baby with us and no way to warm his milk or even access proper water. We repeatedly tried contacting the landlords, but they ignored our calls and messages. We even stood outside their house trying to get help, but they had gone to work.

At that point, my husband could not leave us in that condition anymore. We cleaned the place carefully, even using wet wipes and tissues to avoid causing any issues, and we also recorded videos as proof before leaving.

Now, despite everything we already lost — our business, our savings, our car, and even leaving behind the bond and advance rent — the landlords are still demanding more money. They are claiming we damaged mattresses and asking for $300, claiming a shelf was broken and asking for $150, and accusing us of causing $5,000 worth of electrical damage without providing any real proof, images, or videos. I honestly feel they are capable of creating false evidence as well.

My pain is this: do we not deserve happiness? Ever since we got married, it feels like our life has only been full of struggles and losses with no peace at all. My husband once had a very good life, and as someone from a normal middle-class family, I only dreamed of a peaceful and stable family life after marriage. I am not asking for luxury. I just want my husband, my baby, and myself to live happily and without constant stress.

Now they are threatening us with police and court matters, and mentally I feel completely exhausted. We already lost nearly three years of savings through the business, lost the car almost immediately after buying it, left our bond and rent behind, and still we have no peace of mind.

I genuinely wonder sometimes — are we really that bad? Why does it feel like God is testing us so harshly?

Hi i got married to my boyfriend as it was just long distance and he is not completely toxic he is good but also made few mistakes in our relationship but as he was the only person i dated and when he put marriage proposal i was okay and got married in 2024 and he had good money just like any other student who had gone Australia and celebrated our wedding with grandeur and after that he got a business in Australia hoping it was best decision he didn’t inform anyone about that it was surprise to everyone and initially it was good the first two months and not sure what was the issue it went down like completely as it was first business he even forgot about the ITO something and i had to put all my gold in loan to clear that and the sales isn’t good no matter what we do and we tried to sell the business as it isn’t going good we had to sell it for bare minimum and start something new we got that for 145k in aug 2024 and was ready to sell it for 30k and we gof a buyer but unfortunately as the landlord is also selling the property they were not helpful in extending the lease so we had to just walkaway with nothing just 9days before walking out my husband put all his savings from the past 4 months into a car from marketplace again surprise though i told him not to he thought as we didn’t have good car it would help us drive good as we had a baby and got thr car just exactly after 9 days we were moving out to completely different place and we are travelling in night and the car went down and had to toll twice and the mechanic told its gonna cost 9k and thats howmuch we paid for the car and we took a house in one area as we applied many rental properties as we couldn’t inspect in person and also the competition we couldn’t get any rent and had to choose marketplace and got one thats very far from his workplace and its curvy road and had to drive 1and half hour and the house is very tiny as its video call and the price is too much its 580 per week including bills for a room that has no separation between bedroom to kitchen its basically like a studio and as its getting hard for my husband to drive we politely asked the landlord that we are looking for new property as its far and we paid 4 weeks bond and 2 weeks advance and its a hilly area where my baby is getting ear issues as we have to gulp while travelling just like flight and the landlord isn’t helpful we are looking for houses and all and we even had issue with electricity right from the beginning and she used to say don’t use two items in one go its gonna trip and sometimes it used to trip even with just one thing using and suddenly one day it is tripping i made a video where i wasn’t using anything yet it is tripping and they were like u have to pay for this its gonna be 7k and i wasn’t misusing anything but she is just not helpful and night somehow we got just by unplugging everything and in middle of the night it didn’t trip from home but we had no power and no water and we had baby of 11months and we have been contacting as we need hot water or just water and electricity to warm his milk they weren’t answering we stood infront of their home but they had gone work and my husband cant leave us like that so he spoke to them and said we are leaving and left the home and cleaned everything with wet wipes and tissues as they might cause future issues and we have a video of it too and now they are messaging us like we gave you mattresses and it isn’t good pay 300 for that and pay 150 for broken shelf and pay 5000 for electricity without any image video or proof that we did and i am sure she is capable of producing false evidence as well and now my pain don’t we deserve to be happy since we got married its always downs no ups my husband had seen a best life at some point of time me being a normal middle class girl had hopes that i will be happy and peaceful after marriage it isn’t like that i am not asking for luxury i want my family to he happy stress free like she is blackmailing us like i am gonna call police or court something like that i really cant deal all this we have lost our 3years of savings in business and lost the car just after we got and left all the bond and rent for them and yet no peace of mind are we that bad why is got testing me so bad