u/Electronic_World_443

Vent (sorta?)

So I somehow stumbled upon this subreddit …. It’s a basically this black pill community built around the belief that female attraction to men is far weaker, rarer, or more socially constructed than mainstream society assumes, and that many women are actually bi, lesbian, or otherwise not genuinely sexually interested in men.

And honestly? all I have to say is I’m tired. What frustrates me isn’t just misogyny itself, but the way so many people seem incapable of viewing women as individual human beings. Whether it’s incels, red-pill spaces, certain political groups, or even people reacting against those groups, women often get treated as a monolithic category instead of millions of different individuals with different values, experiences, and personalities.

The result is that people stop engaging with actual women and start engaging with stereotypes they’ve created in their heads. Every negative experience becomes evidence for a broad claim about “women” rather than about a specific person.

What’s especially frustrating is that this mindset often creates a feedback loop. When one side constantly generalizes about women, some women respond by generalizing about men, which then reinforces the original resentment. Both sides become more convinced that the other group is the problem.

I find it exhausting because the reality is much more complicated. Most people are just individuals trying to navigate life, relationships, and social expectations. Treating entire genders as if they all think or behave the same way is intellectually lazy and prevents meaningful understanding.

A lot of these discussions also ignore their own biases. Some people will complain endlessly about being judged while having strong preferences and exclusions of their own. They understand that they have individual tastes, but then refuse to extend that same understanding to other people.

That’s what bothers me most: the lack of self-awareness. Instead of seeing women as individuals with different preferences, goals, and experiences, they create a fictional version of “women” in their heads and then get angry at that fiction.