u/Embarrassed-Poet5483

My (29F) boyfriend (35M) have been together about 3.5 years and a lot of it’s been pretty rocky to say the least. But his sexting expectations and demands I feel are unfair of him to expect of me, I’ve tried talking to him about this many times but I know it’s a sensitive topic for him so maybe I’m just not communicating it in a way he’s able to understand I’m not trying to make him feel embarrassed or shameful. The specific fantasy he wants me to sext him about is a situation where he’d be watching me get DP by two guys. It’s gotten to a point where there’s almost a “script” that I need to stick to which means it’s the same thing every single time. I’m really not comfortable with having to talk about me being in a situation like that, where he wants me to be used by two other guys and him. He expects this to be an all night back and forth sexting about this fantasy. Even if it was talking about any other scenario or fantasy, I don’t have the attention span or stamina to talk sexually for 8-12 hours. But that amount of time on something that makes me really uncomfortable and almost violating because he knows I don’t like talking about that. But is saying that I’m “withholding” and “torturing him” daily by not doing this for him for one night until he reaches orgasm. He also demands voice messages of me talking about this fantasy in the almost scripted version he specifically wants, like long voice messages. I’ve sent him over 10 minutes of voice recordings and he says that I actually need to put effort in and only 10 minutes is pathetic. And it’s not like I haven’t tried, I’ve spent 12-13 hours trying my best to do this for him and even if he enjoyed that time, if he doesn’t orgasm it doesn’t count and he tells me I’m just doing this to fuck with him and keep withholding but I physically cannot control if he orgasms or not. I’ve tried countless nights to do this for him, many where im crying from how uncomfortable it is for me talking about that fantasy. And the amount of time im expected to preform even if its not physical i still think is unreasonable and not a realistic request or expectation to have for your girlfriend. This is the number one thing we fight about. I don’t know what to do at this point because no matter how much i try and have been trying it’s never been good enough.