u/EmbarrassedCow2825

I've been taking a few months off to take care of my newborn son, thought I'd be not thinking about therapy, but I find myself frequently browsing therapy reddit these days.

One thing I've noticed, and it kind of unnerves me, is the amount of posts I see about people saying "I'm obsessed with my therapist and think about them everyday" "I disclosed to my therapist I'm jealous of their partner and I imagine sleeping with them, and they looked uncomfortable" "I told my therapist Im in love with them and they think I should work with another therapist."

It usually then gets justified by saying it's transference, and some people challenge the person, but a ton validate them and blame the therapist for not handling transference correctly.

First of all I don't think it's cool to use transference as an excuse to say extremely sexual or personal things about your therapist, to your therapist. Second, we're people too, and that kind of stuff would make anybody feel uncomfortable.

I think back to that therapist that was killed recently by a client, and the sheer number of therapists that have been harassed or stalked. I think about my own experiences with clients being sexually inappropriately, being harassed for years virtually by a past clients, and a physical assault.

I guess it just really hits a nerve that there's people talking about fantasies, obsessions, or sexualized things they are saying to their therapists and there are people validating this and on top of it blaming the therapist. I fear when someone posts "I told my therapist about my fantasies I think about every night with them, and they no longer feel comfortable seeing me in the evening" and then having 30 people say "your therapist sounds like a real jerk" could put a therapist in harm, and could embolden the wrong person.

I honestly just wish these types of posts would get removed. If anything, it's a good reminder to always maintain strict personal boundaries, because we never know what someone may be thinking about us.

Hello, I live in Peru. I need to go to the US with my son. I am a us citizen and have lived in the US for 30 years. I applied for his crba, but I needed to send the embassy a request for an appointment. I did that, but haven't received anything. I called the embassy, and they say I need to email them. I emailed them asking with the file number if they could please confirm they received my request for appointment. I received an email saying please review their instructions on the embassy Webpage. I emailed back saying I don't need instructions, I just want verification that my request for an appointment was received. They never returned my email. I live close to the embassy, but I can't get in without an appointment.

Not sure what I should do, and this is a very frustrating roadblock for something that should be easy. I need to get my son his passport. I tried just applying for his passport but I get directed back to the crba.

Do I need to reach out to the congress person where I domicile in the United States? Is there an agency I can call that is above the embassy that can inquire for me?

Hello all,

I currently live with my family in Lima, Peru. I'm a us citizen, and my son is a us citizen. I need to return to the United States to take care of some various things. It would also be extremely helpful to bring my son along. The things that I need to take care of can be done in person in El Paso. I would just need to go for a couple of weeks.

My wife is Peruvian, and we are still waiting on her US visa (which seems like it could be a very far way out). She does need a tourist visa to enter Mexico, but could be much easier than the US tourist visa.

My question is, since I'd like to bring my son, would it make any sense to bring my wife with and just stay in ciudad Juárez, and I can go back and forth? I have heard a lot of mixed things about ciudad Juárez and it's level of safety. I have also heard good things about the city, and that it's a cool place to visit.

My wife would also like to go to Mexico. I know ciudad Juárez is not Cancun, but her getting out and experiencing something different and new would be a part of it as well.

If this is a horrible idea, I'll bring my son to my home city. Just think it would be cool to do as a family, and would be nice to have my wife's help with our son.