Genetic risk ivf
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Hi everyone, I realise this is a very personal niche question but I guess I'm after the perspectives of people that have experienced this condition, hope that's ok, please delete if not. A little bit of context:
We are a female same sex couple going through fertility treatment, we had decided to use my partner's brother as the sperm donor. Reasons for this are numerous, but main ones being knowing and loving the donor, the potential child being genetically similar to my partner and not introducing a new person into the potential childs life etc
But the main point I'm struggling with is that he has an ankolysing spondilitus, he was diagnosed as a teenager and is now is 38 and still relatively active, swims and cycles but doesn't run anymore and has injections regularly. There are no other known family members with it and from his perspective he is hoping to have children in the future. I guess I just want to understand from other people, before we go ahead, who have the conditions how they would feel knowing their parents made that decision? Am I being ableist about this?
I've tried to do lots of research about genetic risk but it doesn't seem very clear and it's also not clear whether if the donors has relatively mild symptoms genetically the prospective child would inherit the same. Any thoughts or knowledge gratefully received and I understand this is a sensitive and personal question to ask I am just trying to get as many perspectives as I can.
Thankyou🙏🏽🙏🏽