My toddler is just over 2, and sleep is a real struggle. We never formally sleep trained, but he used to be a great sleeper—went down easily and could put himself back to sleep when he was a baby.
For the past 6–12 months though, bedtime has turned into a 2-hour ordeal. We’re stuck in his room from 8–10pm every night, with him falling asleep typically between 9:15 and 9:45pm. He wants to sit in the chair with us, then wants us sitting there even after he’s in bed. Neither my husband nor I are good at letting him cry, so we’ve kind of fallen into this pattern.
We also just had a second baby (she’s 2 months old), so everything feels more intense. He’s super attached to us right now, which makes sense with the transition, and it’s hard not to lean into that and give him extra comfort.
He’s always gone to bed later than most kids his age (probably our doing), but it used to work fine. Now it’s just not sustainable—especially with a newborn. We’re completely exhausted and can’t keep doing these long bedtimes every night - I really don't understand how he doesn't fall asleep quicker laying in his bed!
I do wonder if he’s getting overtired because we’re starting too late, and that’s part of the problem. He naps from around 1:15-3:30 (I need that as a SAHM so hopefully not the problem).
I’d really love to hear from other parents who’ve been in a similar spot—especially if you’ve successfully shifted bedtime earlier or made it less drawn out. Any tips would be so appreciated.
Sincerely,
Tired Mama